Table Of ContentNo More Mr. Nice Guy...
Stop being “friends” with women and
Start Getting Laid!
Establish your Sexual Interest in her
as a Man... immediately and
“Without Embarrassment”...
Remove the Shame Blocks that prevent
you from developing intimate
connections with women...
Trigger genetic “buttons” that
force her to willingly respond
to your advances...
...Automatically!
Destroy your pathological
Fear of Rejection... Forever!
by Michael Pilinski
by Michael Pilinski
Copyright © 2002 Kipling Kat Publishing Company
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First Electronic Printing -- September, 2002
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Dedicated to all the girls I've ever loved
(since first grade...)
Ellen, Jean, Mary Ellen, Lorene, Cindy, Mary,
Pamela, Susie, Joan, Shannon, Shari,
and Kimberly
Though you all probably think otherwise,
I'll never forget any of you.
Table of Contents
Introduction i - v
Chap 1 -- Is Your Ego Roadkill Yet?
Stop Trying to Get Lucky... Get Informed 1
BloodSport -- Approaching and Seducing Women 2
Romantic Ratings 5
Four Types of Attractiveness / Rejection Sensitivity for Men 7
My Sad and Pathetic Story -- How women piss on Low Status Men 9
F*** Fear!... Becoming Fearless is a Learned Skill 14
Using Your Physical Flaws like a Stun Gun 15
The Female Mating Call -- Respond Properly and You're In 17
Chap 2 -- Seduction: How the Game is Played
The Importance of Establishing Yourself as a Player 21
It's All Subconscious with Her 24
The Nice Guy Blues Explained 26
Nice Guys on Parade 31
Words as Power Tools vs. Pointless Chatter 33
Instant Charisma and Classy Courage 35
How Does Your Blood Smell? 37
Chap 3 -- The Male Dominance Scale Exposed
Are You a 2.5 or a 9.5? 42
High Status (powerful) Males vs. Low Status (weak) Males 45
The Way Women Want Men to Act 52
The Seven Perfect Attributes in Men that Women would Love to See 55
But None of this Works for You... 63
Chap 4 -- Comfortable Wimps, Tough Men
How Toxic Shame keeps you locked inside a Low Status Straitjacket 64
Your Secretly Shamed Affection Needs 71
The Zone of Discomfort 85
Comfortable Friends -- Uncomfortable Lovers 87
Seven Reasons Why You Always end up Friends Instead of Lovers 90
Your Failed Commitment to Suffering the Journey 98
Chap 5 -- Essential Flirting
Seek Adventure, Not Outcome 100
Always have Your Antenna Out 111
In Order to Get Something You Have to Pretend You Don't Want it 111
Your First Words are Always Non-verbal 113
The Rejection-Proof 6 Step Process for First Contact 116
On Rejection Sensitivity 130
Instant Rapport? 132
Make the Incredible Connection... Now! 137
Romance is a Trance 143
Five Minute First Contact Scenario -- In Review 154
Chap 6 -- Closing the Sale
Escalate When the Time is Right to Realize a Successful Seduction 166
You Must Disclose Your Sexual Interest in Her Promptly 170
Be the First One to Reach Out and Touch Her 174
Sexual Tension can Never be Denied 180
Forget what Teacher Said... Assume Anyway! 182
The Deep Look 186
Sealing the Deal: You Must Deliver a Knockout First Kiss 188
Cruise Control: Now She Takes Over 195
Putting it All Together 197
Chap 7 -- The Big Picture
Your Ability to Deliver on Her Four Primary Emotional Needs 204
Make sure that Your Four Primary Emotional Needs are being met by Her 217
The "Right One", defined 225
Getting Her Addicted to You 230
Yeah Baybee!... Your Perfect Pad for Shagging 235
You Evil Bastard, I should have never shown you any of this... 240
Appendix
A) Cayman Magic -- (A fictional pick-up story with annotations) 247
B) The 7 Mega-Rules of Men - Women Relations 282
C) The Dominant Male Test 284
D) Scoring the Dominant Male Test & Interpretation of Results 294
Introduction
Are you socially withdrawn? Is “nerd” how you would describe yourself? Can
you remember a horrible, mocking, humiliating event in your past that still
haunts you to this day? See it as vividly as when it first happened? (Oh, I can
remember a few of them!) What kind of pain does it take to control you? Are you the
sort of person who's motivated by the idea of seeking reward or pleasure? Or are you all
about avoiding pain and hurt at all costs?
Well here's the Great Wonder of being alive... lurking inside every rotten situation
there exists a seed of infinite possibility. If you can find this seed and nurture it
somehow, what all the great philosophies refer to as a catharsis will occur in your life. A
monumental change which walls off all possibility of going back to the way that you
used to be. This process is accessible to anyone interested in taking up the personal
challenge of living Life to its fullest expression. No going to the mountain required.
Just simple old Knowledge is all that's necessary.
I know a man who was out of touch...
And he'd hide in a house and he didn't say much...
Dee da lee dee dee -- dee dee, dee dee -- dee da lee do...
Crunchy Granola Suite
Neil Diamond, 1972
I remember being 18 years old up in my room listening to heart-wrenching songs
from Neil Diamond's Love at the Greek album. Yeah, I know I'm dating myself as an old
fart for a lot of you guys. If I am, then you can substitute your own sad songs... I'm sure
they're similar. My story of growing up with the forlorn frustration of not being able to
connect with the opposite sex is one for the ages. It never changes, generation to
generation. All our experiences are just as relevant despite the passage of time and style
and fashion, because the issues that lie beneath them are universal and eternal. Some of
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us guys are just flat out no damn good at the most important game that we'll ever be
called to play.
The game of seduction.
To some degree we are all awkward when those funny urges first begin to grab
hold of us in our early teens, when we start looking at the girl down the street, our
teacher, and even our sister (yuk!) in a way that we never had before. It isn't long before
we begin to experience the massive discontinuity between our bursting sexual maturity
and our social awkwardness. Our bodies lurch out ahead of our minds.
Suddenly, you’re supposed to switch gears in mid-childhood and go from being a
kid to young adult -- instantly knowing how to charm these... girls (who you didn't even
want on your team last year!) and somehow get them to do something that... I don't know,
everyone expects you to somehow know how to do. And if you don't somehow
magically know what that something is, well then you're just a fucking nerd, and now
you’ve become the focus of endless scorn from all your buddies (who are equally as
clueless but need an easy target to keep the bullets away from them). And to make
matters even worse, everyone knows the one dude who seems to have figured it out all
on his own (by sheer accident it usually turns out) and is making time with every girl in
the neighborhood. Dare you admit that he has a secret power to meet women that you
don't? I could be just like him and get girls too, if I wanted to. Right.
Okay so we were just kids then, stupid kids, so what? Well, it begins to matter a
lot a few years later when every one of your friends fumbles and feels his way into some
kind of relationship, but you're still left standing out in the cold. Soon, panic starts to set
in. What the hell is wrong with me?... you begin to think. Why is it that everyone else
seems to be able to figure out how this making out thing works, and I still can't get the
courage up to even ask one girl out on a damn date?
And like a man with a tiger outside his gate,
Not only couldn't relax but he couldn't relate...
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Your social ineptitude begins to become a real stone in your shoe, an obsession.
There must be a way to overcome this fear of being rejected so that you can "become
normal" like everyone else. But it isn't easy. Like quicksand, your fear draws you down
ever deeper the more you struggle against it. Why? Because it isn't the mere fear of
interacting with women that you have... something which can be overcome with a
courageous burst of willpower. What is really suffocating your social life is more akin to
a phobia that finds its source in a complex webwork of shame and shaming events that
may have either happened to you suddenly in a traumatic event, or (more insidiously)
built up in a very subtle and gradual fashion that was so far beneath your radar screen
that you never knew what hit you.
Bit by bit you were made to understand that certain natural emotions which were
beginning to express themselves as you started to become aware of your world and your
relationships to the various people in them were bad... they were to be repressed and
hidden away and never acted upon. And the tool used by society, your teachers, parents
and other authority figures to control your behavior (and ultimately your thoughts) was
the powerful psychological hammer of shame. The integration of shame and shaming
events into your young and highly vulnerable psyche served to provoke painful thoughts
and memories that eventually had to be flushed from your system by various mood
altering methods, or they would drive you to madness... that's how powerful they are.
All addictive behaviors find their source in a long-ago integrated and repressed feeling of
shame. But it's the warped thoughts and controlling behaviors that are even more
dangerous to our healthy development as mentally well balanced individuals.
In men, one of the places that this terrible shame can create problems is in our
self-concept of what it means to be a man, and by extension, of how we handle the most
critical aspect of our "maleness" i.e., our romantic-sexual relationships with women.
Did you ever say to a girl, "something about you makes me feel young again..."?
That can be a great line, but it has to be used at just the right moment. Too soon and it
seems lame and stupid, too late and, well... it's too late. You see, when it comes to the
magnificent Art of Seduction, everything is all about timing. But if you're held tight in
the grip of shame, merely trying to say these words will feel as if you're rolling a huge
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boulder up a steep hill.
I'm no scientist and I don't claim to have all the answers (or the reams of hard data
to back them up), but I know about the problem that certain types of non-aggressive
males (like me) have with women... Females will not mate with non- aggressive males!
This is a fact of life all throughout nature... from rats and worms to pigs and dogs,
monkeys and humans. Why not? Because seduction and mating and reproduction are
not about rationality. They're about survival of the fittest -- and the urges that produce
them are not worried about protecting anyone's ego. Hell, these drives are not even
aware of the existence of "egos" – although their expression can be disrupted by them.
On the surface, it may seem as if humans have civilized the mating dance so much
that it bears little resemblance to the actions of lower animals, but you'll see that so very
much of what goes on between men and women is spoken only in the language of
movements and looks and attitudes. So much so that it's a wonder we even bother to
weave words into the process at all! But, alas, we do... and so you must know how to
manage your words very precisely. I will show you a scheme -- a template -- for using
words and actions that will insure you of the best possible chance of impressing women
with your desirability as a Man, no matter how much of a wimp you may've seemed like
so far. You see, it's all about training and knowledge. I give you a bit of my humble
knowledge, and you give yourself the training. Before long you are free to advance
onward into the next phase -- the love and romance phase -- of your life’s journey.
And like a man with a tiger outside his gate,
Not only couldn't relax but he couldn't relate...
Now he can,
family man,
tried my brand...
Ah, if only it were so easy. But I'll tell you this... with just a few crucial
understandings of exactly what it is that women find attractive in a man (certain
“signaling” behaviors) and how to affect those behaviors in just the right way when
you're around them, it isn't all that difficult to overcome your seemingly impenetrable
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