The Many Joys of Sex Toys: The Ultimate How-to Handbook for Couples and Singles

285 Pages·2004·1.61 MB·English

by  Anne Semans

Contents
Title Page
Acknowledgments
Introduction
LEARN
Sex Toy Joys: Why You Should Try a Sex Toy
Toys for All Seasons: Basic Sex Toy Styles
A Pleasure Primer: Your Body's Hot Spots
Maximizing Pleasure: Tips for Sex Toy Success
Taking Care of Business: Care and Safety
PLAY
The Blissful Buzz: Masturbating with a Clitoral Vibrator
Priming the Pump: Masturbating with a Penis Sleeve
Steamy Toy Tale: Bus Ride by Colin Ladd
G Marks the Spot: The Hunt for the G Spot
The Right Tool for the Job: Stimulating Multiple Pleasure Points
Steamy Toy Tale: Catalog Shopping by Kate Dominic
Going for Broke: The Quest for Multiple Orgasms
Pump It Up: Get Bigger, Last Longer
All Hands on Deck: Hand Jobs Made Simple
Steamy Toy Tale: Thanksgiving with the In-laws by Lauren Mills
The Love Muscle: Exercising Your PC Muscle
Look, Ma, No Hands: The Art of the Hands-free Dildo Play
Steamy Toy Tale: A Girl's Best Friend by Kristina Wright
Queen Bee Abuzz: Using a Vibrator in the Woman-on-Top Position
Missionary Zeal: Spicing Up the Missionary Position with a Cock Ring
Vibrator
Four on the Floor: Doing It Doggie-Style with a Hands-free Vibrator
Steamy Toy Tale: Secrets by Julia Rebecca
Sit Up and Take Notice: Add a Vibrator to the Sitting Position
The Slow Simmer: Snuggling Up to a Vibrator in the Spoons Position
Double Trouble: The Art of Double Penetration
Blow Him Away: Give a Blow Job with a Buzz
Steamy Toy Tale: Ixchel Does It All by Sage Vivant
Ladies' Night: Performing Creative Cunnilingus
Bottoms Up: Massaging the Prostate with Anal Beads
Steamy Toy Tale: The Meeting by G. Merlin Beck
Please Enter from the Rear: Anal Intercourse with a Dildo
Baby's Got Back: Masturbating with a Butt Plug
Steamy Toy Tale: A String of Pearls by Madeleine Oh
The Touch of Love: Erotic Massage for Beginners
What's the Buzz? Hot Talk Meets High Tech
Steamy Toy Tale: At Home with the Vibrapen by Joy VanNuys
Log On and Get Off: Cybersex with a Sex Toy
Wet and Wild: Underwater Sex Adventures
Exercising Restraint: Playing with Light Bondage
Steamy Toy Tale: Jane's Bonds by Shanna Germain
SHOP
Getting the Goods: Where to Shop for Sex Toys
The Art of the Deal: Shopping Tips for the Savvy Consumer
RESOURCES
Recommended Toy Stores
Sex Information Hotlines
Favorite Sex Sites
Recommended Books
Recommended Videos
About the Author
About the Authors of the Steamy Toy Tales
Other books by Anne Semans, with Cathy Winks
Praise for The Many Joys of Sex Toys
Copyright Page
Acknowledgments
Because a picture is worth a thousand words, I owe a debt of gratitude to Phoebe
Gloeckner for illustrating all the sexual activities in this book. I also appreciate
the ten talented authors whose erotic stories bring sex toys to life in a way that
nonfiction can't. Their bios are at the end of this book.
Many thanks to my agent, Amy Rennert, as well as my enthusiastic editor,
Kris Puopolo, and her assistant, Beth Haymaker. I appreciate the unique
contributions of the individuals who helped with research and ideas: Jenne
Holmes, Chris Bridges, Krissy Cababa, Joyce Solano, Adrienne Bennedicks,
Carly Milne, M. Christian, Shar Rednour, Jackie Bruckman, Ann Whidden,
Caroline Streeter, Genanne Walsh, and Mary Ann Mohanraj.
Much love to my colleague and dear friend, Cathy Winks, for giving me the
courage to go it alone. Special thanks to Susie Bright for the well-timed
encouragement and for always being a great role model. And thanks to Petra
Zebroff, for restoring my faith in the old-school tradition of sex information
sharing. All three of these women are pioneers in the sex world.
On the home front, thanks to my babysitters, Jennifer Wong, Jeffrey Abbott,
Shannon Bradley, Trish Chapman, and especially Sheila Semans, who gave up
many weekend hours. Without their patience, love, and flexibility, this book
would never have seen the light of day. Finally, thanks to Roxanne, a young girl
who understands the meaning of “deadline,” and to baby Lily, who's always
ready with a smile.
Introduction
I was nineteen when I took my first spin with a vibrator. I spent the summer with
a friend who kept her beloved electric vibrator lying by her bed. One day while
she was out my curiosity got the better of me and, after giving the toy a quick
sponge bath, I turned it on and pressed it against my clitoris. Nothing could have
prepared me for the delicious and totally unexpected sensations that traveled
through my body, not to mention the powerful orgasm that rippled clear through
to my toes. Needless to say, I made up a lot of excuses to stay indoors that
summer, and enjoyed some of the best orgasms of my life.
I tell that story because it illustrates how simple erotic exploration can lead to
a richer sexuality. In the twenty years since my maiden voyage I've encouraged
thousands of people to “just try sex toys, you'll like them.” In my conversations
I've encountered all kinds of stereotypes about sex toys, but I discovered they're
usually a smoke screen masking feelings of embarrassment, fear, or discomfort.
Trying anything new involves risk, but when pleasure is at stake, success
becomes its own reward. A sex toy can open up new vistas of pleasure—who
needs a better incentive to try one than that?
Perhaps one of the most tenacious myths about sex toys is that they're okay to
use alone, but they're off limits once you're in a relationship. By tossing your
toys back into the closet (or burying them, as did a friend of mine), you miss out
on an exciting opportunity for erotic discovery with your partner. Sex toys create
new possibilities: for better orgasms, for new positions, for finding erogenous
zones, and for improved communication. All that will become obvious to you as
you read—or play—your way through The Many Joys of Sex Toys.
I want to draw your attention to the heart of this book, the twenty-five sexual
activities described in the Play section. They represent the most popular types of