Table Of ContentPraise for The Boy Crisis
“Original, thoughtful, and filled with gems of practical wisdom to understand
and support the future of boys.”
—Jack Canfield, coauthor of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken
Soup for the Soul® series
“As an activist in the women’s movement, I’m proud of expanding life choices
for our daughters. But no one did the same for our sons—until now. Dr. Warren
Farrell shines his searchlight on the ‘boy problem with no name’ in this totally
absorbing, astonishing, and masterful book. Best of all, he offers parents and
educators straightforward solutions with a heart full of compassion.”
—Gail Sheehy, author of Passages and Understanding Men’s Passages
“The Boy Crisis is the most important book of the 21st century. Farrell and Gray
are absolutely brilliant. Their decades of experience addressing gender issues,
and meticulous research, shines light on why our sons are failing, and why we
live in a world of increasing violence. More important, they offer solutions that
we can all unite behind. If you care about the very survival of humankind, you
must read this book.”
—Jed Diamond, PhD, author of The Irritable Male Syndrome
“A must-read for anyone who cares about our boys, our schools, our culture, and
the future of our country.”
—Helen Smith, PhD, author of Men on Strike
“The Boy Crisis is a groundbreaking and exhaustively researched book about
one of the most vital and disastrous yet underreported topics in America by one
of the most thoughtful writers of our time. As the wife of a dad-deprived man,
and the mother of a dad-enriched son, I can personally vouch for its deep
significance.”
—Suzanne Venker, Fox News contributor and author of The War on Men
“In the last fifty years, nobody in the world has written more searchingly about
men and women than Warren Farrell and John Gray. Finding these two brilliant
minds joined in The Boy Crisis is like witnessing a pair of searchlights merging
and focusing on the most important social question of our age: What is to
become of the boys of today, the men of tomorrow?”
—Neil Lyndon, author of No More Sex War
“The Boy Crisis is a heroic, compassionate book with clear analyses and
accessible solutions. As a boy who grew up in crisis myself, I recognize how
Drs. Farrell and Gray give us the roadmap to a better future for our boys, our
families, and our country.”
—Thabiti Boone, former President Obama White House Fatherhood and
Mentoring Initiative champion, who chose raising his daughter over an
NBA career
“Reading The Boy Crisis is disturbing and disquieting. The deprivation,
alienation, and loneliness I experienced with my father I imitated to a large
degree with my own sons. With this exceptional book, Warren Farrell shows us
a clear path to how we, as men, and as families, can break this cycle.”
—David Meggyesy, former NFL linebacker and regional director of the
NFL Players’ Association and author of Out of Their League
“I now have two young great-grandsons and The Boy Crisis will my bible.”
—Erin Pizzey, founder of the world’s first domestic violence shelters for
women
“A very important, powerful book, backed by incontrovertible research to allow
each parent and professional to positively reshape boys’ lives.”
—Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and Saving Our Sons
“With the compassionate wisdom of a wise cultural warrior, Dr. Farrell emerges
as a counselor not only to The Boy Crisis, but to society itself as he identifies the
underlying conditions faced by our sons, from the ‘Hero Paradox’ to male-style
depression, and ways to rectify our sons’ mental, physical, economic, and
educational health.”
—Barbara Marx Hubbard, Foundation for Conscious Evolution
“The Boy Crisis is a goldmine. As a foster parent to hundreds of male teens at a
group center, I know that had their parents been able to read The Boy Crisis,
they would have avoided being taken from their homes, and experienced more
effective and loving parenting.”
—Dr. Vanessa Dahn, executive director, Safe Landing Group Center
“A must-read for any parent of a boy. You will find guidance in every area from
physical health to mental health to creating stability for your son. Not only does
it explain how, but the book provides reasons why, so you understand the full
picture.”
—Rachel Alexander, contributor, Townhall
“As a therapist for thirty-plus years, I have witnessed firsthand the quiet yet
lethal crisis Drs. Farrell and Gray have identified by a socialization which
prepares young men more effectively for death than life. With depth and
urgency, Farrell and Gray give ever-penetrating attention to its amelioration.”
—Lori D. Galperin, LCSW, cofounder, Castlewood Treatment Centers
“Farrell and Gray present an insightful, candid, and eye-opening view of the
problems facing millions of boys and young men.”
—Dr. Linda Neilson, professor of education, Wake Forest University;
author of Father–Daughter Relationships
“Any help given to boys is often seen as taking away from helping girls. Warren
Farrell helps us to understand why, if boys lose, girls lose as well. But what boys
need to flourish is different from what girls need to flourish. Warren Farrell gets
this. As the father of a daughter, I believe we all can benefit from reading The
Boy Crisis.”
—Leonard Sax, MD, PhD, New York Times–bestselling author of Boys Adrift
and Why Gender Matters
“The Boy Crisis is a game-changing book. If you love your son, brother,
husband, boyfriend, or any other man, it will change your life and theirs. It is
filled with insight, compassion, and a powerful vision of the evolution of love. A
must-read.”
—Dr. Marc Gafni, president, Center for Integral Wisdom
“Poignant, inspiring, and information-packed.”
—Troy Kemp, executive director, National Center for the Development of
Boys
“The Boy Crisis will deepen your awareness and help you guide your son
through the many dilemmas and ordeals that attend the journey from boyhood to
manhood. Profoundly helpful.”
—Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly and Prodigal Father, Wayward Son
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