Social competence unit & Appendix Practices and exercises of social competence and creativity

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The SGSCC - Serious Games for Social & Creativity Competencies
SOCIAL COMPETENCE AND CREATIVITY
GUIDE
Blakom
Plovdiv, 2015
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SOCIAL COMPETENCE AND CREATIVITY GUIDE
Plovdiv, 2015
First edition
This project has been funded with support from the European Commission. This publication
reflects the views only of the author, and the Commission cannot be held responsible for any use
which may be made of the Information contained therein.
SOCIAL COMPETENCE AND CREATIVITY GUIDE
This publication has been produced with the financial support by the SGSCC
“Serious Games for Social & Creativity Competencies” with project number:
531134-LLP-1-2012-1-BG-KA3-KA3MP” of the Lifelong Learning programme of
the European Commission.
http://www.games4competence.eu/
Authors: Prof. Rumen Stamatov PhD, Assoc. Prof. Svetlana Sariyska, Maria
Goranova, Petya Grudeva
First edition
Illustrations: Dimitar Mehandjiiski
Editor: Karel Van Isacker
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Introduction........................................................................................................................................................... 7
CHAPTER 1. WHAT IS SOCIAL COMPETENCE?........................................................................................... 10
1.1. Why do we need a social competence?............................................................................. 11
1.2. What are the marks of the social competence?..............................................................12
1.3. Why do we need creativity?...................................................................................................15
1.4. What are the marks of the Creativity?..................................................................................15
1.5. How can we develop the social competence and creativity?.....................................17
1.6. Motivation for the development of social competences............................................. 17
CHAPTER 2. COMMUNICATION SKILLS...................................................................................................... 24
2.1. What are communication skills?............................................................................................. 25
2.2. Listening......................................................................................................................................... 25
2.3. Self-disclosure............................................................................................................................ 26
2.4. Expressing of one‘s own emotions according to the context.................................... 27
2.5. Empathy........................................................................................................................................ 28
2.6. Acceptance................................................................................................................................. 29
2.7. Trust................................................................................................................................................. 31
2.8. Skills for initiating discussions on various topics............................................................ 32
CHAPTER 3. CO-OPERATING SKILL.............................................................................................................. 34
3.1. What is co-operation? ............................................................................................................... 35
3.2. Recognition of the achievements and the merit of others.......................................... 35
3.3. Gratitude........................................................................................................................................ 36
3.4. Foreseeing and solving problems ...................................................................................... 37
3.5. Following rules and instructions..........................................................................................38
3.6. Engaging with pro-social behaviours................................................................................. 39
3.7. Accepting another‘s point of view ..................................................................................... 39
CHAPTER 4. ABILITIES TO SOLVE INTERPERSONAL PROBLEMS .......................................................41
4.1. What are the interpersonal conflicts?................................................................................42
CHAPTER 5. SELF - EVALUATION.................................................................................................................45
CHAPTER 6. SELF-CONTROL.........................................................................................................................48
6.1. What is self-control? ................................................................................................................49
SECTION 7. ASSERTIVENESS........................................................................................................................51
7.1. What is assertiveness?.............................................................................................................52
PRACTICES AND EXCERCISES1 .................................................................................................................. 53
Introduction.....................................................................................................................................................55
1. ASSESSMENT OF THE DEVELOPMENT OF SOCIALCOMPETENCE AND CREATIVITy.......56
2. COMMUNICATION SKILLS.....................................................................................................................56
2.1. Listening .....................................................................................................................................56
2.1.1. Listening practice/exercise for awareness raising
of the importance of listening........................................................................................56
2.1.2. Exercise for realizing the effects of listening ...............................................59
2.1.3. Exercise for developing of listening skills .....................................................62
2.1.4. Exercise for practice of listening ........................................................................64
2.2. Self-discovery .............................................................................................................................65
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2.2.1. Exercise for awareness of self-discovery........................................................ 66
2.2.2. Exercise for promoting self-discovery.............................................................68
2.2.3. Exercise for self-discovery and self-expression.............................................71
2.3. Expressing of one‘s own emotions according to the context ....................................74
2.3.1. Exercise to distinguish emotions....................................................................... 74
2.3.2. Exercise for awareness of the responsibility
for the emotions we feel ..................................................................................................76
2.3.3. Exercise for emotional vocabulary and expression of emotions ...........79
2.3.4. Exercise- expression of experiences with different methods ....................81
2.3.5. Exercise for development of emotional vocabulary................................... 82
2.3.6. Exercise to use I-messages to express emotions...............................................83
2.3.7. Exercise to use I- and you-messages.....................................................................87
2.4. Empathy ......................................................................................................................................90
2.4.1. Exercise For realizing the empathy and the effects
from the empathy................................................................................................................90
2.4.2. Exercise for development of empathic abilities and attitudes.................92
2.5. Acceptance ..................................................................................................................................94
2.5.1. Exercise for realizing the acceptance and the effects
from acceptance ................................................................................................................94
2.5.2. Exercise For realizing of non-acceptance messages ...................................95
2.5.3. Exercise for expressing acceptance ..................................................................97
2.5.4. Exercise for development of acceptance through demonstration of
comprehensive listening and expression of warm attitude............................... 99
2.6. Trust .............................................................................................................................................101
2.6.1. Exercise for realizing the meaning of trust ..................................................101
2.6.2. Exercise for expressing trust............................................................................. 102
2.6.3. Exercise for non-verbal expression of trust ................................................103
2.6.4. Exercise for development of trust ...................................................................104
2.7. Skills for initiating discussions on various topics ........................................................105
2.7.1. Exercise for overcoming the fear of strangers ............................................105
2.7.2. Exercise for initiating a conversation .............................................................107
2.7.3. Exercise for initiating a conversation in different situations ..................109
2.7.4. Exercise for having conversations .....................................................................111
2.7.5. Exercise for realizing the connection between
verbal and non-verbal communication .....................................................................113
2.7.6. Exercise for self-discovery and initiating conversations ..........................114
3. COOPERATION ............................................................................................................................................117
3.1. Recognition of the achievements and the merit of others .......................................117
3.1.1. Exercise for realizing the recognition ............................................................117
3.1.2. Exercise for expressing recognition ...............................................................118
3.2. Gratitude ...................................................................................................................................120
3.2.1. Exercise for realizing of gratitude .....................................................................120
3.2.2. Exercise for expressing gratitude ....................................................................121
3.3. Foreseeing and solving problems.....................................................................................123
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3.3.1. Exercise for collaborative problem-solving ................................................123
3.3.2. Exercise for realizing the effects from the
collaborative problem-solving.................................................................................... 124
3.3.3. Exercise for problem solving ............................................................................126
3.4. Following rules and instructions ....................................................................................128
3.4.1. Exercise for following rules.............................................................................. 128
3.4.2. Exercise, how well I follow the instructions................................................. 130
3.5. Engaging with pro-social behaviours .............................................................................133
3.5.1. Exercise for realizing the pro-social behaviour ...........................................133
3.6. Accepting another‘s point of view.................................................................................... 134
3.6.1. Exercise for realizing the effects from accepting another‘s
point of view .......................................................................................................................134
3.6.2. Exercise for accepting another‘s point of view ..........................................136
3.6.3. Exercise how well I accept another‘s point of view ..................................137
3.6.4. Exercise for realizing the differences in the points of view................... 139
3.6.5. Exercise for considering different points of view ......................................141
4. INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS .................................................................................................................144
4.1. Exercise for realizing the conflicts and effects from conflicts .................................144
4.2. Exercise for realizing the effects from conflict resolution I lose –
you win, I win – you lose ..............................................................................................................145
4.3. Exercise for realizing the consequences of resolving
conflicts without loss ......................................................................................................................147
4.4. Exercise for realizing and formulating the conflict ....................................................149
4.5. Exercise for distinguishing the needs from solutions ................................................154
4.6. Exercise for resolving conflicts without loss ..................................................................157
4.7. Exercise for conflict resolution using the method without losing parties.......... 162
5. SELF-ESTEEM .............................................................................................................................................165
5.1. Exercise for receiving compliments .................................................................................165
5.2. Exercise for realistic comparisons ....................................................................................166
5.3. Exercise for not focusing on failure ................................................................................168
5.4. Exercise for minimizing the self-criticism and criticism of others ..........................167
5.5. Exercise for recognizing one‘s own strengths ...............................................................170
5.6. Exercise for awareness of the expectations ..................................................................172
5.7. Exercise for expectation of success ................................................................................173
5.8. Exercise to enhance sensitivity to ourselves .................................................................175
5.9. Exercise for linking success with one‘s own abilities .................................................176
5.10. Exercise to enhance the sensitivity to the self and to one‘s own value........... 178
5.11. Exercise for acceptance of criticism – distinguishing the criticism
about what I have done from this about what I am ...........................................................179
5.12. Exercise for development of sensitivity to the self ..................................................180
5.13. Exercise to foster self-esteem ..........................................................................................181
5.14. Exercise for approval of one‘s self ...................................................................................183
5.15. Exercise for development of the self-esteem – I am what I am ...........................184
5.16. Exercise for making and receiving positive statements ........................................186
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5.17. Exercise to enhance the sensitivity to one‘s
own strengths in various areas ....................................................................................................187
5.18. Exercise to enhance sensitivity to one‘s own uniqueness .....................................190
5.19. Exercise to enhance the sensitivity to the unique skills and talents ..................192
5.20. Exercise to strengthen the positive statements for one‘s self ..............................193
5.21. Exercise to enhance sensitivity to one‘s own value and dignity .........................195
6. SELF-CONTROL ........................................................................................................................................197
6.1. Exercise for awareness of self-control ............................................................................197
6.2. Exercise for developing self-control strategies ...........................................................198
6.3. Exercise for making efforts ................................................................................................201
6.4. Exercise for completing tasks requiring efforts............................................................202
6.5. Exercise to deal with delayed gratification ...................................................................205
6.6. Exercise to enhance the persistence in the pursuit of goals ..................................207
6.7. Exercise for the use of future I........................................................................................... 208
6.8. Exercise to deal with the thoughts that reinforce the temptations .....................210
6.9. Exercise for control of the impulsive behaviour............................................................212
6.10. Exercise to understand reasons for negative feelings ............................................214
6.11. Exercise for awareness of the responsibility for one‘s own feelings ...................215
6.12. Exercise for awareness of the feelings we experience
and the thoughts that we have ..................................................................................................217
6.13. Exercise for awareness of the relationship between thoughts,
emotions and situations, and the effects
of this relationship on the emotions .........................................................................................218
6.14. Exercise for dealing with hurt ...........................................................................................220
6.15. Exercise to deal with worry, anxiety and fear............................................................. 221
6.16. Exercise for dealing with anger .......................................................................................222
6.17. Exercise to control anger ...................................................................................................223
7. ASSERTIVENESS.........................................................................................................................................226
7.1. Exercise for awareness of assertiveness...........................................................................226
7.2. Exercise for awareness of the consequences of passive
and aggressive behaviour ..............................................................................................................228
7.3. Exercise for building assertive response style................................................................ 230
7.4. Exercise for awareness of the differences between
assertive and non-assertive response styles........................................................................... 232
7.5. Exercise for compiling assertive responses.................................................................... 235
7.6. Exercise for dealing with pressure from others............................................................ 238
7.7. Exercise for making requests ...............................................................................................239
7.8. Exercise for response to the pressure of others ...........................................................241
8. CREATIVITy .................................................................................................................................................244
8.1. Exercise to recreate a particular idea through various means ...............................244
8.2. Exercise to express emotions and themes in original visual forms .....................245
8.3. Exercise Play story ..................................................................................................................246
8.4. Exercise my dreams ...............................................................................................................246
Preferences ........................................................................................................................................................248
Glossary .............................................................................................................................................................249
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Introduction
This proposed guide contains a set of exercises, ideas and activities that will help you to
master social competence and creativity skills.
What does the guide contain and how do you use it?
The guide is divided into sections;broken down into social competence and creativity
skills. Each section includes a description of exercises and activities,which will help you
master the presented content. The process to be undertaken is represented by the following
statement: “Observing the social competence and creativity in others, then in yourself,then
practicing the social competence and creativity in /didactic and playful context/and
redirecting it into an actual context”/ Hatchings, Comins, & Offiler,208 /.
Sequences
Stage 1 - Observing models of social competence and creativity, demonstrated by
others.
Stage 2 - Observing self- social competence and creativity /discovery and experience of
self- social competence and creativity /.
Stage 3- Practising social competence and creativity in didactic and playful and safe
context.
Stage 4 - Using the mastered social competence in everyday life.
An essential point in the program for developing social competence and creativity is
the creation of opportunities to practise skills in situations that are close to real situations,
which would reinforce the belief that learning can be applied in real situations and become
part of personal experience.
Certainly, for you as tutors, it will not be possible to provide real context. But you can
use a variety of scenarios which are similar to real situations, to aid the transfer of the learned
social competence skills from didactic to real situations.
This process can be facilitated by the introduction of a variety of scenarios and users.
What will ensure you success is your ability to encourage participants to continue to put the
learned skills into practice in real life situations, which are filled with real challenges.
Take a note of the following consequence:
What should be learned?
Participants in the group would be able to cope with learning much more easily if they
understand the purpose and meaning of what they have to learn and how to learn it.
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Providing support
Participants in the group will be more prone to continue learning, and feel much more
confident if they receive regular positive feedback.
Encouraging the learning
Participants in the group will be more prone to continue learning, if they have confidence
that the skills they are learning increases to some extent their competence and confidence
that they can do it.
Possibilities for practising
Participants in the group will be more prone to continue learning, if they have experiences
in real situations similar or relevant to the educational ones. The process of implementing
the learned skills in a real context is part of the program and it depends of your ability to
encourage the participants to apply the skills, which they’ve learned in their own lives.
This guide is designed for working in a small group. Participation is voluntarily,
participants are open for change, keen, and willing to discuss professional and personal
challenges. Group work passes in the context of dialogical relations, in the situation „here
and now“. The use of the current situation as a source of experiences and discussion topics
provides:
y emotional and behavioural engagement
y general significance that goes beyond the previous experiences of the individual
y participants;
y opportunity for the behaviour to be modified, to experiment, to fix the mistakes,
to narrate, to share, to seek solutions and meanings jointly, and the freedom to
experiment with the someone’s own self-behaviour, to seek, to rethink is the basis
of learning.
y opportunity to rethink someone’s own experiences, attitudes, behaviours, and to
rethink the behaviour towards yourself
Teamwork implies:
• area of security and mutual trust;
• non- assessment -that provides an authentic presence and free expression of
experiences;
• concreteness - sharing include specific feelings and behaviours;
• activity and initiative, combined with the experience of self-value and importance
of each participant;
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• unconditional acceptance of others;
• responsibility;
• Inviolability -collaborative searches should not affect the participants‘ self-esteem
and experiences;
• freedom of expression;
• support and experience of support - participants can receive support in coping with
difficulties;
• Structured situations - exercises, activities, scenarios ... which are performed by a
facilitator.
Notes
In describing the activities and exercises in the particular sections many of the ideas
and exercises created by D. Jonson, S. Khlsa, A. Vernon, B. Berg, T. Gordon, K. Mcgonigal, M.
Rosenberg, S. Hutchings, J. Comins, and J. Offiler, M. McKay, M. Davis, & P. Fanning are used.
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