Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work, Volume 2

324 Pages·2012·9.53 MB·English

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MONEYMATTERS fromaroundtheworld.
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helpedthem.Nowdiscover
YOURPARENTS
howitcanhelpyou.
YOURFEELINGS
RECREATION
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GROWTH
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trust!QuestionsYoung p
PeopleAsk—AnswersThat le
FRIENDSHIPISSUES
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justthat.Likethefirst
k
SCHOOLAND volume,thisbookincludes
YOURPEERS 2
theresultsofinterviews
withhundredsofyouths
MONEYMATTERS fromaroundtheworld.
TheBible’ssoundadvice
helpedthem.Nowdiscover
YOURPARENTS
howitcanhelpyou.
YOURFEELINGS
RECREATION
YOURSPIRITUAL
GROWTH
Questions
young people ask
answers that work
“Acquirewisdom,
acquireunderstanding.”
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role model
index
DearReader: TheShulammite33
WiseKingSolomonwrote:“Rejoice,
youngman[orwoman],inyouryouth,and
ThePoorWidow166
letyourheartdoyougoodinthedaysofyour
youngmanhood,andwalkinthewaysofyour
heartandinthethingsseenbyyoureyes.”
Joseph50
(Ecclesiastes11:9)Whenyouareyoung,life
canbesointerestingandexciting,andwewant
youtoenjoyit.However,weencourageyoutodo
soinawaythatpleasesJehovahGod.Never Hezekiah193
forgetthathecanseewhatyouaredoingwith
yourlifeandwilljudgeyouaccordingly.Howwise
itis,then,tofollowSolomon’sfurtheradvice: Lydia97
“Remember,now,yourGrandCreatorinthedays
ofyouryoungmanhood.”—Ecclesiastes12:1.
Itisourearnestprayerthattheinformation Paul227
inthispublicationwillhelpyoutowithstandthe
pressuresandtemptationsfacingtoday’syouth
andwillshowyouhowtomakedecisionsthat TheThreeHebrews
areinharmonywithGod’swill.Bydoingso, 134
youwillmakeJehovah’sheartrejoice.
—Proverbs27:11.
Governing Body David257
of Jehovah’s Witnesses
Doyouhavecom-
mentsabouthow
thisbookhasben- Asaph287
efitedyou?Write
tothepublishers
attheappropriate
address.
role model
index
DearReader: TheShulammite33
WiseKingSolomonwrote:“Rejoice,
youngman[orwoman],inyouryouth,and
ThePoorWidow166
letyourheartdoyougoodinthedaysofyour
youngmanhood,andwalkinthewaysofyour
heartandinthethingsseenbyyoureyes.”
Joseph50
(Ecclesiastes11:9)Whenyouareyoung,life
canbesointerestingandexciting,andwewant
youtoenjoyit.However,weencourageyoutodo
soinawaythatpleasesJehovahGod.Never Hezekiah193
forgetthathecanseewhatyouaredoingwith
yourlifeandwilljudgeyouaccordingly.Howwise
itis,then,tofollowSolomon’sfurtheradvice: Lydia97
“Remember,now,yourGrandCreatorinthedays
ofyouryoungmanhood.”—Ecclesiastes12:1.
Itisourearnestprayerthattheinformation Paul227
inthispublicationwillhelpyoutowithstandthe
pressuresandtemptationsfacingtoday’syouth
andwillshowyouhowtomakedecisionsthat TheThreeHebrews
areinharmonywithGod’swill.Bydoingso, 134
youwillmakeJehovah’sheartrejoice.
—Proverbs27:11.
Governing Body David257
of Jehovah’s Witnesses
Doyouhavecom-
mentsabouthow
thisbookhasben- Asaph287
efitedyou?Write
tothepublishers
attheappropriate
address.
Questions
young people ask
answers that work
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QuestionsYoungPeopleAsk—AnswersThatWork,Volume2 English(yp2-E)
MadeintheUnitedStatesofAmerica
ANotetoParents
Toyoungpeople,goingthroughadolescencecanbe
likewalkingatightrope.Eachstepmayseemuncertain
—evenfrightening.Asaparent,youmaysometimes
wishyoucouldspareyouryoungonesthisparticular
“walk.”Youcan’t,ofcourse,butyoucanbetheirbalanc-
ingpole.Youareinauniquepositiontohelpyour
childrenstayoncourseandemergefromtheiradoles-
cenceasresponsibleadults.
Easiersaidthandone?Certainly.Itmayseemlike
onlyyesterdaythatyoursonwasanenergetictoddler
whowouldn’tkeepquiet;nowhe’sawithdrawnteenwho
won’ttalktoyou.Notlongagoyourlittlegirlwantedto
goeverywherewithyou;nowsheseemsmortifiedatthe
veryideaofbeingseeninpublicwithherparents!
Yet,youneednotfeelinadequatewhenfacingthese
changes.Youhaveaccesstoasourceofwisdomthatcan
providesolidguidanceforyouandyourchild.That
sourceofwisdomisGod’sWord,theBible.
QuestionsYoungPeopleAsk—AnswersThatWork,
Volume2,isdesignedtoprovideyourchildwithsolid
reasoningfromtheScriptures.AlookatContentson
pages4and5willgiveyouanideaofthevarietyoftopics
covered.Butthispublicationwilldomorethanpresent
thefacts.Considerthefollowing:
(1)Thebookisinteractive.Inmanyplacesyour
childwillbepromptedtowritedownhisorherresponse
tovariousquestionsandstatements.Forexample,the
“Peer-PressurePlanner”onpages132and133willhelp
yourchildthinkaboutspecificchallengesheorshefaces
andwaystorespondtothem.Inaddition,eachofthis
2 youngpeopleask
book’sninesectionsconcludeswithapageentitled“My
Journal,”inwhichyourchildcanwritepersonalthoughts
andfeelingsonthematerialcontainedinthatsection.
(2)Thebookpromotescommunication.Forexample,
pages63and64containthebox“HowCanITalktoDad
orMomAboutSex?”Also,attheendofeachchapter,
thereisaboxentitled“WhatDoYouThink?”Morethan
areview,thisboxcanbeusedasanoutlineforfamilydis-
cussion.Inaddition,eachchaptercontainsan“Action
Plan!”thelastsegmentofwhichaskstheyoungperson
tocompletethissentence:“WhatIwouldliketoaskmy
parent(s)aboutthissubjectis...”Thiswillencourage
youthstolooktotheirparentsforbalancedadviceas
theywalkthetightropeofadolescence.
Awordofcaution:Toencourageyouradolescentsto
writeintheirbookwithcandor,allowthemameasureof
privacy.Latertheymaywellopenuptoyouontheissues
theyhavewrittenabout.
Obtainyourowncopyofthisbook,andbecomethor-
oughlyfamiliarwithit.Asyouread,trytorecallallthe
drama,confusion,andanxietythatwerepartofyourown
adolescence.Whenappropriate,shareyourexperiences
withyoursonordaughter.Thatwillencourageyour
youngonestoconfideinyou.Whentheytalk,listen!
Ifeffortstocommunicateseemfutile,donotgiveup.No
matterhowmuchtheymayindicateotherwise,children
tendtovaluetheadviceoftheirparentsmorethanthat
oftheirpeers.
Itisourpleasuretoprovidebothyouandyourchil-
drenwiththisBible-basedtool,anditisourprayerthatit
willprovetobeablessingtoyourfamily.
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contents
Preface:WhereCanIFindtheBestAdvice? 6
1
THEOPPOSITESEX
1 AmIReadytoDate? 14
2 SecretDating—What’stheHarm? 21
3 IsThisPersonRightforMe? 28
4 HowFarIsTooFar? 42
5 WhyStayaVirgin? 48
2
LIFECHANGES
6 What’sHappeningtoMyBody? 58
7 WhatifIHatetheWayILook? 67
8 WhyDoIHavetoBeSoSick? 74
3
FRIENDSHIPISSUES
9 HowCanIDealWithLoneliness? 86
10 WhyDidMyFriendHurtMe? 92
11 WhatAboutOnlineFriendships? 99
12 What’sSoBadAboutGossip? 105
4
SCHOOLANDYOURPEERS
13 HowCanIDoBetteratSchool? 114
14 HowCanIProtectMyselfatSchool? 121
15 HowCanIResistPeerPressure? 128
16 ADoubleLife—WhoHastoKnow? 136
17 WhatShouldIKnowAboutSchool
Friendships? 142
5
MONEYMATTERS
18 HowCanIMakeSomeMoney? 150
19 HowCanIManageMyMoney? 156
20 WhatifMyFamilyIsPoor? 165
6
YOURPARENTS
21 HowCanIDealWithCriticism? 174
22 WhySoManyRules? 181
23 WhatifMyParentIs
AddictedtoDrugsorAlcohol? 190
24 WhatShouldIDoifMyParentsArgue? 199
25 CanIBeHappyinaSingle-ParentFamily? 208
7
YOURFEELINGS
26 HowCanIControlMyEmotions? 218
27 WhyDoIFeelThatIHavetoBePerfect? 225
28 HowCanIAvoidHomosexuality? 231
29 HowCanIKeepMyMindoffSex? 237
8
RECREATION
30 ShouldIPlayElectronicGames? 246
31 HowCanIKeepMusicinItsPlace? 253
32 HowCanIHaveaGoodTime? 263
33 WhyAvoidPornography? 273
9
YOURSPIRITUALGROWTH
34 WhyLivebyBibleStandards? 282
35 HowCanIBecomeGod’sFriend? 289
36 HowCanIDefendMyBeliefinGod? 297
37 ShouldIGetBaptized? 304
38 WhatWillIDoWithMyLife? 311
PREFACE
Where can I find the