Psychology Now - Volume 4 Revised Edition 2022

134 Pages·2022·32 MB·English

NEW
VOLUME 4
Psycholog y
Now
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR MIND
FOR A HAPPIER, HEALTHIER LIFE
“IT’S SO UNNECESSARILY
PAINFUL TO BE A
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VOLUME 4
Psychology
Now
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR MIND
FOR A HAPPIER, HEALTHIER LIFE
Understanding human behaviour and mental processes, whether our
own or those belonging to others, is essential if we want to make better
decisions and lead happier lives. Why do we feel certain emotions in
specific situations? Why do we behave in particular ways? And what can
we do to overcome the things that hold us back? Delve into the world
of psychology and build a better relationship with your mind. Learn how
to be kind to it, unlock its full potential and use it to your advantage.
In the pages that follow, we explore the role live music and theatre
play in making us happy, the impact of procrastinating, the science
behind anxiety, and the psychological challenges people in the LGBTQ+
community have to face – but also the benefits of coming out and being
true to yourself. We also look into how reverse psychology works, why
some people are rude, and how we define suffering.
Packed full of expert guidance from psychologists, counsellors and
other professionals, we also speak exclusively to Michelle Elman
about the importance of being selfish and setting boundaries.
The mind is a powerful tool. Learn how to take control of your own
mind today for a happier, healthier tomorrow.

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CONTENTS
8 26 48
WHICH THERAPY IS THE SCIENCE HOW TO THINK
OF RUDENESS
FOR ME? YOURSELF SMART
28
56
PAST PERFECT
WALKING IN SOMEONE
ELSE’S SHOES
32
58
12 INSIDE ANXIETY
LIVING
THE NEED TO KNOW 38 OUT
LOUD
14 WHAT IS PERSONALITY?
WHY WE SHOULD ALL
64
BE MORE SELFISH
40
THE HUNGER GAMES
WHY LIVE ARTS MATTER 66
46
HOW DOES
HYPNOSIS
22
REGRETS WORK?
ARE GOOD
WHY ARE WE WAITING? FOR YOU
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CONTENTS
70 88 110
UNDERSTANDING THE DISORDER HOW OPTICAL
SOCIAL STATUS THAT ‘WAS’ ILLUSIONS WORK
72 90 116
FINDING MEANING UNDERSTANDING THE
IN SUFFERING AVERSION THERAPY WANDERING
MIND
78
HOW DO WE
SENSE TIME?
119
94
HAVE YOU READ
THIS BEFORE?
THE IMPACT OF PRISON
80
120
100
WHAT IS GASLIGHTING?
COULD COLOUR
LET THE TREES BE THE CURE?
82
TREAT YOU
124
THE KEY TO
102
MOTIVATION IN SPORT
SPIRIT IN THE
PSYCHOLOGY
REVENGE: SWEET
OR SOUR?
126
86
LEARN TO
LOVE CHANGE
HOW DOES REVERSE 108
PSYCHOLOGY WORK?
THAT SMELLS FAMILIAR
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WHICH THERAPY IS FOR ME?
WHICH
IS FOR ME?
There’s a multitude of
problems therapy can
help with and just as
many approaches to take.
How do you know which
is right for you?
8 PSYCHOLOGY NOW
WHICH THERAPY IS FOR ME?
WORDS SARA NIVEN
PSYCHODYNAMIC PERSON-
PSYCHOTHERAPY CENTRED
THERAPY
SStteemmmmiinngg ffrroomm SSiiggmmuunndd FFrreeuudd’’ss
ppssyycchhooaannaallyyssiiss,, FFrreeuudd bbeelliieevveedd tthhaatt
ppssyycchhoollooggiiccaall pprroobblleemmss aarree rrooootteedd iinn tthhee TThhiiss ffoorrmm ooff tthheerraappyy ffaallllss iinnttoo aa ccaatteeggoorryy
uunnccoonnsscciioouuss mmiinndd,, aanndd eexxppeerriieenncceess ffrroomm ccaalllleedd ‘‘hhuummaanniissttiicc’’,, wwhheerree tthhee cclliieenntt iiss sseeeenn aass
aa ppeerrssoonn’’ss ppaasstt ccaann iinnflfluueennccee tthheeiirr tthhoouugghhttss aabbllee ttoo ssoollvvee ddiiffifficcuullttiieess tthheemmsseellvveess,, ggiivveenn tthhee
aanndd bbeehhaavviioouurr iinn llaatteerr lliiffee.. PPoossiittiivvee cchhaannggee iiss rriigghhtt ccoonnddiittiioonnss.. DDeevveellooppeedd bbyy ppssyycchhoollooggiisstt
sseeeenn aass hhaappppeenniinngg aass aa rreessuulltt ooff uunnccoovveerriinngg CCaarrll RRooggeerrss iinn tthhee 11994400ss,, tthheerree iiss aann eemmpphhaassiiss
rreepprreesssseedd eevveennttss aanndd lliinnkkiinngg tthheemm ttoo pprreesseenntt oonn tthhee ccoouunnsseelllloorr sshhoowwiinngg uunnccoonnddiittiioonnaall
ddiiffifficcuullttiieess.. YYoouu mmiigghhtt ssppeenndd ssiiggnniifificcaanntt ppoossiittiivvee rreeggaarrdd ((UUPPRR)),, wwhhiicchh rreeffeerrss ttoo nnoonn--
ttiimmee ddiissccuussssiinngg yyoouurr cchhiillddhhoooodd oorr rreeccaalllliinngg jjuuddggeemmeennttaall wwaarrmmtthh aanndd aacccceeppttaannccee.. TThhee
ddrreeaammss,, wwiitthh yyoouurr tthheerraappiisstt ssuuggggeessttiinngg tthheerraappiisstt aaiimmss ttoo eennssuurree aa cclliieenntt ffeeeellss hheeaarrdd
ccoonnnneeccttiioonnss.. TThhiiss aapppprrooaacchh aallssoo eemmpphhaassiisseess aanndd uunnddeerrssttoooodd,, aanndd eennaabblleess tthheemm ttoo lleeaadd
tthhee iiddeeaa aanndd eexxpplloorraattiioonn ooff ttrraannssffeerreennccee,, tthhee sseessssiioonn aanndd sseett tthhee ppaaccee.. CCoommppaarreedd ttoo aa
wwhheerree ffeeeelliinnggss yyoouu eexxppeerriieenncceedd iinn pprreevviioouuss ppssyycchhooddyynnaammiicc ccoouunnsseelllloorr,, aa ppeerrssoonn--cceennttrreedd
rreellaattiioonnsshhiippss mmaayy bbee pprroojjeecctteedd oonnttoo yyoouurr oonnee iiss mmoorree lliikkeellyy ttoo ooccccaassiioonnaallllyy rreevveeaall tthheeiirr
tthheerraappiisstt –– ffoorr eexxaammppllee,, yyoouu vviieeww tthheemm aass aa oowwnn eexxppeerriieenncceess ((sseellff--ddiisscclloossuurree)) iiff tthheeyy sseeee iitt
ccrriittiiccaall tteeaacchheerr oorr ffaavvoouurriittee uunnccllee.. aass hheellppffuull ffoorr eemmpphhaassiissiinngg uunnddeerrssttaannddiinngg..
Suitable for AA wwiiddee rraannggee ooff iissssuueess,, Suitable for AAllll aaggeess aanndd aa wwiiddee rraannggee ooff iissssuueess,,
iinncclluuddiinngg ddeepprreessssiioonn aanndd aannxxiieettyy.. iinncclluuddiinngg ggrriieeff,, ddeepprreessssiioonn,, aannxxiieettyy aanndd ssttrreessss..
Considerations SSoommee ppeeooppllee mmiigghhtt Considerations TThhee oouuttccoommee ooff ppeerrssoonn--
pprreeffeerr ttoo ffooccuuss oonn tthhee pprreesseenntt tthhaann cceennttrreedd tthheerraappyy ddeeppeennddss oonn wwhhaatt aa cclliieenntt
rreevviissiitt tthheeiirr cchhiillddhhoooodd.. TThheerraappyy mmaayy cchhoooosseess ttoo ttaallkk aabboouutt iinn sseessssiioonnss.. SSoommee
ttaakkee ppllaaccee oovveerr aa lloonnggeerr ttiimmee ffrraammee ppeeooppllee mmiigghhtt wwaanntt mmoorree ddiirreeccttiivvee hheellpp tthhaann
tthhaann ssoommee ootthheerr aapppprrooaacchheess.. tthhiiss ffoorrmm ooff ccoouunnsseelllliinngg ttyyppiiccaallllyy pprroovviiddeess..
GESTALT
THERAPY
GGeessttaalltt tthheerraappyy iiss aannootthheerr ffoorrmm ooff
hhuummaanniissttiicc tthheerraappyy bbaasseedd oonn tthhee bbeelliieeff
iinn aa cclliieenntt’’ss nnaattuurraall aabbiilliittyy ttoo aacchhiieevvee
hheeaalltthhyy bbaallaannccee aanndd ggrroowwtthh.. DDeevveellooppeedd
bbyy ppssyycchhootthheerraappiissttss FFrriittzz aanndd LLaauurraa PPeerrllss,,
iitt ppllaacceess aa ssttrroonngg ffooccuuss oonn iimmmmeeddiiaaccyy iinn
aaddddiittiioonn ttoo tthhee cclliieenntt//ccoouunnsseelllloorr rreellaattiioonnsshhiipp..
AAlltthhoouugghh aannyy sskkiilllleedd tthheerraappiisstt wwiillll ppaayy
aatttteennttiioonn ttoo yyoouurr bbooddyy llaanngguuaaggee,, aa GGeessttaalltt
tthheerraappiisstt iiss mmoorree lliikkeellyy ttoo ccoommmmeenntt oonn tthhiiss..
TThheeyy mmiigghhtt tteellll yyoouu tthheeyy nnoottiiccee yyoouu ttaappppiinngg
yyoouurr ffeeeett wwhheenn ddiissccuussssiinngg aa ppaarrttiiccuullaarr
ttooppiicc,, ffoorr iinnssttaannccee,, aanndd eennccoouurraaggee yyoouu ttoo
Some prefer
to focus on
the present
than revisit
childhood
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