Table Of ContentPrinciples of Marriage and Family Ethics
Principles of Marriage
and Family Ethics
Ayatullah Ibrahim Amini
Islamic Propagation Organization
Islamic Republic of Iran
1984
Contents
Foreword ............................................................................................ i
Preface .............................................................................................. iii
Part 1: The Duties of Women ............................................................ 1
The Purpose of Marriage ............................................................... 1
Living with Husband ..................................................................... 5
Kindness ........................................................................................ 6
The Husband's Respect ................................................................. 9
Complaints and Grievances ......................................................... 11
Pleasant Dispositions .................................................................. 13
Wrong Expectations .................................................................... 16
Be a Comfort for Your Husband ................................................. 18
Be Appreciative ........................................................................... 20
Do not Look for Shortcomings.................................................... 22
Don't Look at Anyone Other Than Your Husband ..................... 25
Islamic Hijab ............................................................................... 27
Forgive Your Husband's Mistakes .............................................. 30
Coping with Your Husband's Relatives ...................................... 31
Coping With Your Husband's Job ............................................... 33
If You Have to Live Away From Your Hometown .................... 36
If Your Husband Works at Home ............................................... 38
Help Your Husband to Make Progress ........................................ 40
Be Careful That He is Not Misled ............................................... 42
Suspicious Women ...................................................................... 45
Do Not Pay Attention to Slanderous Talks ................................. 56
The Satisfaction of Your Husband and Not Your Mother .......... 59
Be Clean and Beautiful at Home Also ........................................ 63
Be a Mother to Him ..................................................................... 65
Accept His Management ............................................................. 67
Be Resourceful when Times are Hard......................................... 70
Do not Refuse to Talk and do not Sulk ....................................... 71
Remain Silent when he is Angry ................................................. 74
Men's Hobbies ............................................................................. 76
Housekeeping .............................................................................. 77
Cleanliness .................................................................................. 79
A Tidy House .............................................................................. 82
Preparing Food ............................................................................ 85
Receiving Guests ......................................................................... 90
The Trustee of the House ............................................................ 96
Careers of women ....................................................................... 97
Do not Waste your Spare Time ................................................. 101
Motherhood (Caring for Children) ............................................ 103
Nutrition and Hygiene ............................................................... 107
Part 2: The Duties of Men ............................................................. 111
The Guardian of the Family ...................................................... 111
Taking Care of your Wife ......................................................... 112
Be Loving towards Her ............................................................. 112
Respect Your Wife .................................................................... 116
Be Well-mannered .................................................................... 118
Complaining Unnecessarily ...................................................... 124
Picking up Quarrels ................................................................... 125
Appease Her and Sympathize with Her .................................... 127
Do not pick up Faults ................................................................ 129
Do not Pay Attention to Slanderous Talk of the Critics ............ 131
Overlook Her Mistakes ............................................................. 136
Be Attentive .............................................................................. 144
The Disciplinary Rights of the Husband ................................... 148
Suspicious Men ......................................................................... 153
The Unfaithful Woman ............................................................. 160
Do not Go After Other Women ................................................. 162
Be Grateful ................................................................................ 165
Be Clean at Home Also ............................................................. 167
Nurse Your Wife ....................................................................... 170
Family Economy ....................................................................... 172
Extend Your Help in the Household Works .............................. 175
Return Home Soon .................................................................... 176
Be Faithful ................................................................................. 177
Education and Training ............................................................. 179
Having A Child ......................................................................... 182
Pregnancy and Childbirth .......................................................... 189
Assistance in Bringing up Children .......................................... 192
The Major Obstacle in Settling down Disagreements ............... 194
Divorce ...................................................................................... 196
Foreword
The human society is comprised of families. Islam attaches great
importance to real pleasure and prosperity of human beings through
Islamically balanced, highly ethical, well-educated and well-behaved
families and happy homes. Like in all the fields of human activity,
Islam has laid down clearly and in detail the rights and duties of men
and women, husbands and wives and also parents and children. The
happy homes having pleasant environment, in which husband, wife,
children and other relatives live together merrily with good mutual
understanding, tolerance and respect as well as fulfilling their
respective duties towards each other, is indeed an index of the highest
status the Almighty Allah has blessed, among the creatures, to all
human beings.
Unfortunately, the lack of appreciation about these aspects,
particularly by husbands and wives, leads to many problems for
themselves as well as for the children-the future generations. In
advanced and western countries, with more and more progress,
greater technological and scientific achievements and very fast and
ultramodern way of life, the rate of divorces and separations is
alarming.
Considering the importance of the subject, the I.P.O. is taking the
privilege of publishing this book (originally in Persian language)
written by an eminent Islamic scholar, a noted author and a senior
professor of Islamic Jurisprudence at, Hawzah Ilmiyyah (Islamic
Theological Centre), Qum, Iran, Hujjatul-Islam Ibrahim Amini.
The author has taken great pains in conducting research and deep
study on the subject of family ethics and husband-wife relationship.
The first part deals with duties of women and the second part contains
duties of men. Along with the duties, rights of husbands on wives and
those of wives on husbands have also been described quoting relevant
verses of the Holy Qur'an and Ahadith (traditions).
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It is hoped that the book would be found very useful for all and every
home would treasure this to derive the maximum benefit for creating
and maintaining the serene and pleasant environment, full of Allah's
blessings.
International Relations Department
Islamic Propagation Organization
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