Performance Addiction: The Dangerous New Syndrome and How to Stop It from Ruining Your Life

253 Pages·2004·0.86 MB·English

by  Arthur P. Ciaramicoli

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Performance
Addiction
The Dangerous New Syndrome
and How to Stop It
from Ruining Your Life
Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D.
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Performance
Addiction
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Performance
Addiction
The Dangerous New Syndrome
and How to Stop It
from Ruining Your Life
Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D.
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
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Copyright © 2004 by Arthur Ciaramicoli. All rights reserved
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Ciaramicoli, Arthur P.
Performance addiction : the dangerous new syndrome and how to stop it from
ruining your life / Arthur Ciaramicoli.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 0-471-47119-4
1. Perfectionism (Personality trait) I. Title.
BF698.35.P47C53 2004
155.2'32—dc22
2004005663
Printed in the United States of America
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To the members of Group:
If only the world had your courage, honesty, and integrity.
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Contents
Acknowledgments xi
Introduction: The Curse of the Capable 1
1 What Is Performance Addiction? 5
2 Performance Addiction in Your Life 15
3 Evidence of Performance Addiction 37
4 The Scene of the Crime 53
5 Image Love and Your Relationships 79
6 Exceptional Mediocrity 105
7 The Lure of Glamour 127
8 The Quest for Glory 145
9 Meaning and Joy 165
10 Parenting and Performance Addiction 183
11 Balancing Work and Life 201
Resources 219
Index 225
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