Managing yourself: mastering your emotional intelligence

185 Pages·2003·0.559 MB·English

by  Morgan, Paul

managing yourself
DO THIS –
LIFE GE TS
AND YOUR
BETTER
managing yourself
coach yourself to optimum emotional intelligence
Paul Morgan
www.yourmomentum.com
the stuff that drives you
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thank you…
Thanks to Neil Moult at Vision2learn.com and Rachael Stock at momentum for
having faith in my Emotional Intelligence expertise.
I would like to dedicate this book to Marie and Natasha.
momentum managingyourself opening pages vi/vii
chapter one
my promise to you
are you the sort of person who should read
this book? /2
how this book differs from traditional self-help books /3
rags to riches /4
hugging trees /4
perfect methods /5
what is emotional intelligence? /7
about the book /11
chapter two
old maps and empty rooms
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when I click my fingers you’ll think you
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how the model works /21 s
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control central /28
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chapter three
self-awareness – it’s a wonderful life
it’s a wonderful life /34
blind spots and Johari windows/35
levels of emotional awareness /37
how do you feel? /40
as time goes by /40
the DREC curve /41
DREC and QII /43
activities /44
chapter four
goal setting – step forward
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goals and RAS /59
ethics and goals /60
the power of purpose /61
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chapter five
empathy – knowing you
Data and Counsellor Troi /74
empathy /74
getting to know you /76
the seven per cent solution /78
knowing me, knowing you /79
the dark side of empathy /80
activities /80