Making Babies the Hard Way: Living with Infertility and Treatment

242 Pages·2007·0.74 MB·English

by  Caroline Gallup

Making Babies the Hard Way
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Making Babies the Hard Way
Living with Infertility and Treatment
Caroline Gallup
Foreword by William L. Ledger
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
London and Philadelphia
‘A Blade of Grass’ on pp.96–7 from Love Poems (1991) by Brian Patten reprinted by permission of
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One love – it’s now!
Contents
Acknowledgements 9
Foreword by William L. Ledger 11
Introduction 13
1. ‘It doesn’t make you any less of a man you know’ 15
2. ‘When will I be a grandma?’ 24
3. ‘You may feel a little uncomfortable for a few days’ 32
4. Chauffeur driven to Fertility Central 47
5. ‘And how do you feel about that?’ 60
6. Do we need another man in our lives? 74
7. Treasures of the heart 86
8. The first insemination 98
9. Trials and traumas 110
10. Footprints in the sand 119
11. Good omens and then… 123
12. Constructive communication 134
13. Am I forcing Mother Nature? 146
14. ‘I don’t mind what we do, as long as we decide something’ 162
15. ‘Have you thought about adopting?’ 176
16. In sickness and in health 184
17. ‘I don’t know how to tell you this…’ 195
18. This could be the last time… 205
Epilogue: Past, present and future 217
Glossary and abbreviations 220
Useful addresses 229
Further reading 234
Index 235