Table Of Content“Dawn’s timely message about our addiction to approval and the desper-
ate need to fight for recovery prompts us to approach our insecurities
with honesty and courage and discover joy in the surrendered life God
intended for us.”
—Angie Smith, women’s ministry speaker and
best-selling author of I Will Carry You and Mended
“Dawn has written a powerful book that every woman needs to read!
We miss so much of our God-given purposes in fear of what other flawed
humans think. Thank you, Dawn, for bravely sharing with us the solu-
tion to these oft-challenging fears and feelings: a deeper trust in the God
who made us.”
—Lara Casey, author of Make it Happen and Cultivate
“We’ve all felt the allure of social approval and the disappointment of an
online post or real-life relationship falling flat. Like Me or Not shows us
a different way as Dawn’s practical tips and vulnerable stories call us to
greater levels of freedom in Christ.”
—Jen Weaver, author of A Wife’s Secret to Happiness
“Like Me or Not was a liberating read for me as a woman. I believe this
book is going to empower women everywhere to start seeing themselves
a little more like God sees us.”
—Laura L. Bento, CEO, Good Grit Magazine
“Like Me or Not is a helpful guide for those who struggle with people-
pleasing. Dawn, with surprising candor, takes the reader through her
own journey, and offers tangible steps for growth and healing. If control
and perfectionism are part of your need-to-please repertoire, this book is
for you.”
—Lucille Zimmerman, licensed professional counselor
and author of Renewed
“Like Me or Not gives thoughtful, biblical, practical help for all of us who
seek the approval of others. It is truly a crucial book for the twenty-first
century.”
—Bob Hostetler, coauthor with Josh McDowell of
Don’t Check Your Brains at the Door
“Like Me or Not allowed me to feel more confident in my decisions and
completely surrender to God’s will instead of the opinions of others. If
you’re constantly seeking approval, this is the book for you.”
—Bethany Jett, award-winning author of The Cinderella Rule:
A Young Woman’s Guide to Happily Ever After.
“Like Me or Not is inspiring and uplifting. We all require tools to navi-
gate the storms of people-pleasing. This is a must read on the path to
self-discovery!”
—Meghan Noone, model/spokesperson,
Executive Director, Noonetime Charities
“Dawn has opened the door of her life to connect with countless people
who share her same addiction. Like Me or Not serves as a practical re-
source to bring healing to the approval addict. This authentic approach
to new life is a journey worth taking.”
—Micah Andrews, CEO, Foundry Ministries
“Dawn’s book is a must-read for all women. I’m grateful that God
prompted Dawn to write such an honest and powerful book.”
—Michelle Medlock Adams, best-selling author
of more than eighty books
“Dawn addresses this important topic in an honest, personable, and
loving way. For too long the standards by which we judge ourselves have
been unreasonable and downright false. Dawn not only addresses the
problem of approval addiction, she offers a Christ-centered, practical
strategy to solve it.”
—Dr. Janet L. McMullen, Associate Professor of Communications,
University of North Alabama
Like Me or Not
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is the product of your spiritual legacy.
This “Ehud” is forever grateful.
Contents
Introduction: Could I Have a Problem? 1
1. Reality Check 7
2. Puhlease, People 15
3. Me, Insecure? 33
4. My Way or the Highway 51
5. Don’t Take It So Personally 65
6. Community versus Comparison 77
7. That Chip on Your Shoulder 89
8. Rejected! 101
9. One Day at a Time 109
10. Know Who You Are 131
11. Obsession (Not the Perfume) 141
12. Peace Junkie 153
13. A Joy-a-Holic 161
14. The Surrender Habit 169
Conclusion: The End of Us Begins with You 179
Leader’s Guide 185
Appendix 209
Acknowledgments 213
Notes 214
INTRODUCTION
Could I Have
a Problem?
Before you can break out of prison, you first
must realize you are locked up.
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