Table Of Contentby Greg Harvey,PhD
Foreword by Carol Schlesinger,LCSW
Grieving
FOR
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Grieving
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by Greg Harvey,PhD
Foreword by Carol Schlesinger,LCSW
Grieving
FOR
DUMmIES
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Grieving For Dummies®
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About the Author
Greg Harvey, the author of a slew of For Dummies books running the gamut
from Excel For Dummies to The Origins of Tolkien’s Middle-Earth For Dummies,
has had a long career of teaching business people the use of IBM PC, Windows,
and Macintosh software application programs. From 1983 to 1988, he con-
ducted hands-on computer software training for corporate business users
with a variety of training companies. From 1988 to 1992, he taught university
classes in Lotus 1-2-3 and Introduction to Database Management Technology
(using dBASE) in the Department of Information Systems at Golden Gate
University in San Francisco.
In 2000, after starting graduate school, Greg began volunteering at Maitri, a
15-bed AIDS patient care facility located in San Francisco, California. As part
of the Masters program, he took courses in Death and Dying and as part of
his Doctorate program did his comprehensive exams in Death and Dying in
Western and Eastern culture and religion. In 2003, he also received volunteer
and group facilitator training at the Center for Attitudinal Healing in Sausalito,
California, and began volunteering for their Home and Hospital Visitor pro-
gram. In 2006, he received his PhD in Comparative Philosophy and Religion
with a concentration on Asian Studies from the California Institute of Integral
Studies in San Francisco, California.
Greg is currently a member of the American Academy of Bereavement, from
which he received Bereavement Facilitator training, and the Association for
Death Education and Counseling (ADEC). He is also a patient care volunteer
for Maitri AIDS Hospice in San Francisco, Sutter VNA and Hospice in Santa
Rosa and a patient care, bereavement, and vigil volunteer at Hospice By The
Bay in Marin County and San Francisco.
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Dedication
“For such is the way of it: to find and lose, as it seems to those whose boat is on
the running stream.”
—Legolas to Gimli upon saying farewell to Lothlórien: The Fellowship of the
Ring by J.R.R. Tolkien
This book is written especially for my life partner, Christopher Aiken, who
continually inspires me to live each moment fully.
This book is dedicated to all the people and their families whom I’ve been
privileged to support as a volunteer (and who always to teach me so much
about life and love), along with the following fine and outstanding individuals:
Helen Rose, Jerry and Jo Ann, Mike and Linda, Susan Dolder, Tara, Shandy,
Maggie, Kimma, and Rudy, Carol, Diane, Hilda, Judith, Lynne, Penni, and
Sharon.
It’s also dedicated to the memory of the following loved ones — both my own
and those of many folks who supported this project — lost to us in this life
but still found very much alive in our hearts:
Shane W. Gearing, Kenneth H. Harvey, M. Faye Harvey, Clyde B. Harvey, Olive
Harvey, Charles (Pop) Pounds, Gertrude Pounds, Walter Harvey, Cornellia
Harvey, Herschel Harvey, Edna Harvey, Paul Harvey, Lenora M. Harvey, Fern
Grosvernor, Otis Grosvernor, Charles (Jr.) Pounds, Karen Stewardson, Penny,
Juno, Nicky, Joshua, Chauncey, Ginger, Kelly, Seung Sahn Nim, Larry Peterson,
Philip L. Manly, Hans, George H. Feltman, Mary Catherine Campbell, Margaret
Rose O’Neil, Amada Lujan Rubio, Maximo G. Rubio, Marilyn Schlesinger,
Dayton Schlesinger, Merlin, Pootey, Sophie, Pokey, Lucky, Scott Dorffman,
Vernice Downing, Steve Durkee, Doreen Querido, and Anne Smith.
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Author’s Acknowledgments
I am deeply indebted to the many folks who helped me complete this project
through a combination of inspiration and support as well as a sharing of their
insights and experience on death and grieving.
At Wiley Publishing, special thanks to Diane Steele, Grace Davis, Joyce
Pepple, Lindsay Sandman Lefevere, Mike Baker, Tim Gallan, Katie Feltman,
Elizabeth Rea, and Jennifer Theriot.
At Hospice By The Bay, very special thanks to Mary Taverna, Cheryl Wilkins,
Kay McArthur, Ann Bednarczyk, Kathleen Carroll, and Carol Schlesinger.
At the International Institute of Attitudinal Healing, special thanks to Gerald
Jampolsky, Jennifer Andrews, Trish Ellis, and Jimmy Peté.
At the American Academy of Bereavement, special thanks to my Bereavement
Facilitator trainers, Jackson Rainer, Douglas Gross, Deidre Felton, and Marily
Gryte.
In addition, special thanks to all the following people who contributed so
much valuable feedback and support for this project: Melinda Bryant, Lynda
Smith, Pam Tolbert, Shannon Taylor, Sharon Parr Taylor, Dr. Betty Carmack,
Rev. and Dr. Gina Rose Halpern.
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