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Shoshanna, Brenda.
Fearless : the 7 principles of peace of mind / Brenda Shoshanna.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-4027-7067-8 (hc-trade cloth) 1. Peace of mind. 2. Fear. I. Title.
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This hook is dedicated to Noah Lukeman, my wonderful agent,
whose unending efforts on my behalf have given birth to this work.
Special Thanks
I WISH TO OFFER SPECIAL THANKS FOR THE LOVE, Support, wisdom,
guidance, and encouragement that contributed to the writing of this
book.
First, thanks to my dear family, who never fail to offer love and
support—Danny, Gerry, Melissa, Abram, Joshua, Yana, Adam, Zoe,
Remy, Jake, Maya, Zachary, and Cassie.
I want to thank my wonderful editor, Jennifer Williams, whose
diligent work and lovely disposition have greatly contributed to this
project.
I particularly thank those whose unending friendship, practice, and
wisdom have guided me along, including'Eido Roshi, Robert Kennedy,
S. J. Roshi, Ernie Castaldo, Larry Crane, Michael J. Creelev, Burt
Dubin, Haskel Fleishaker, Rabbi Joseph Gelberman, Ed Glassing,
Martin Hara, Lindsay Harrison, Gene Krackhel, Richard Schiffman,
William Solomon, Bernard Starr, Fay Tabakman, Scott Young, and
Ralph Zeitlin.
Contents
Preface.....................................................................................................1X
PART 1
The Seven Principles of Peace of Mind
Introduction: Meeting Fear Face-to-Face............................................
One iq
Principle 1: The Courage to Be Who You Are................................... 1'
Principle 2: Letting Go of Attachment and Grasping.........................34
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Principle 3: Recognizing the Voices Within.......................................
I'OUR y I
Principle 4: Finding a Safe Harbor.....................................................
Principle 5: Blessing Others: Deeds of Love.......................................92
Principle 6: Letting Go of Control and Domination.........................113
Principle 7: Discovering Your Perfect Nature: Becoming a Friend.... 137
PART 2
155
Becoming Whole
P.IOIIT
156
landing the Precious Jewel.
PART 3
.173
Workshop on Dissolving Fear
.200
Lpiloguc: Living on a New Basis
.203
Resources...................................
.203
Bibliography...............................
.205
Index . ................................
Preface
Whoever can see through all fear will always he safe.
—Tao Te Ching
|()D\v, we are A nation bathed in fear. Just a few years ago, it seemed
.is I hough opportunities were endless. By and large, jobs were secure,
hanks were stable, and we could count on the ever-expanding growth of
our economy to help us fund our children’s future and our own. There
w as a sense of stability, prosperity, and hope. Most importantly, we felt
invulnerable to foreign attack, and confident that our borders would
never be violated.
The shocking events of September 11 ushered in a new era,
however. Not only were we awakened harshly to terrifying and tragic
events, but the sense of being shielded in our own land had suddenly
been ripped away. Since then, fear has become a part of our daily lives.
I '.very day in the months that followed 9/11, we checked to see if there
was a red or yellow terror alert. Would the terrorists strike again? How
sale would we be that day?
Next came the Iraq war, causing further upheaval, fear, loss, and
dissension. The national and international turbulence goes on and on.
’ Ibday, many of our basic anchors—so much that we once counted
on lo keep us secure—have been taken away. The world seems to be
l in ning upside down. This is a time of crisis.
I I < mover, the Chinese ideogram for crisis means opportunity. When
our sense of security is taken away when we don’t know where to turn
