Domination & submission : the BDSM relationship handbook

494 Pages·2013·1.69 MB·English

DOMINATION & SUBMISSION:

THE BDSM
RELATIONSHIP HANDBOOK

BY
MICHAEL MAKAI
COPYRIGHT © 2013 MICHAEL MAKAI
All rights reserved.
Dedication
This book is for the people who are simply tired of pretending to be something
or someone they are not, and are ready for a change.
Table of Contents
PREFACE
Don’t Read This Book
Chapter 1: The Dominant
What is a Dominant?
Introspection
Training a Dominant
What Kind of Dominant Would You Be?
Types of Dominants
Peeking Into My Head
My Two Cents on Being a Dominant
Chapter 2: The Submissive
What is a Submissive?
Introspection
The Gift of Submission
Total Power Exchange
Types of Submissives
My Two Cents on Submission
Chapter 3: The Switch
Introspection
Types of Switches
My Two Cents on Switches
Chapter 4: The Primal
What is a Primal?
Michael Makai’s PRIMAAL Analysis
How Primal Are You?
Primal Preferences
Primal Scenes
Primal Instincts
My Two Cents on Primals
Chapter 5: Online BDSM Relationships
Spotting an Online BDSM Phony
Challenges
The Virtual Line
The Reality Behind the Avatar
Where Is It Going?
Improving the Odds
Warning Signs
The Rewards
My Two Cents on Online BDSM Relationships
Chapter 6: The Collar
What is a collar?
Symbolism of the Collar
Types of Collars
Slave Contracts
Your Collar, Your Commitment
My Two Cents on Collars
Chapter 7: The Gorean Way
What is a Gorean?
What Do Goreans Really Believe?
The Gorean Slave
The Gorean Collar
Categories of Collars
Collaring, the Gorean Way
Gor in Real World Relationships
My Two Cents on Gor
Chapter 8: The First Meeting
Types of First Meetings:
Practical Considerations
First Meetings: Sheila’s Story
Safety Precautions
After The Meeting
My Two Cents on First Meetings
Chapter 9: BDSM Toys & Safety
Toy Tips
Types of BDSM Toys & Equipment
Bondage Gear
Impact Gear
Piercing, Scarification & Branding
Sensation Play & Sensory Deprivation
Role Play Accessories
BDSM Furniture
BDSM Toys “R” Us
My Two Cents on BDSM Toys
Chapter 10: BDSM Groups & Activities
Customs and Protocols for a Munch
Things You Should Do
Things You Shouldn’t Do
Customs and Protocols for a Play Party
How to Find a Local BDSM Group
My Two Cents on BDSM Munches
Chapter 11: Sex, Love, D/s, & BDSM
Mistaking BDSM for Sex
Mistaking Love for BDSM
Mistaking BDSM for D/s
Lessons Learned
My Two Cents on Sex, Love, and BDSM
Chapter 12: Polyamory
Group Marriage and Polygamy
Potential Advantages of a Poly Relationship
Potential Pitfalls of a Poly Relationship
If You’re Not Poly
Poly Glossary
My Two Cents on Polyamory
Chapter 13: D/s, BDSM, & Religion
D/s and Judaism: Could Lead to Mixed Dancing
D/s and Islam: Keep Your Clothes On
D/s and Buddhism: Sensual Misconduct
D/s and Hinduism: You Can’t Do It Wrong
D/s and Paganism: Do What Thou Wilt
D/s and Christianity: Similitudes of Submission
Filling a Void
My Two Cents on D/s and Religion
Chapter 14: What Could Possibly Go Wrong?
The D/s Break-up
Avoiding the Train Wreck
My Two Cents on What Can Go Wrong
Chapter 15: Rainbows & Unicorns
My Two Cents on Happiness
Appendix A: Glossary
Appendix B: Silly Shit Mike Makai Says
Appendix C: About the Author
All people dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty
recesses of their mind, wake in the morning to find that it was vanity. But the
dreamers of the day are dangerous people, for they dream their dreams with open
eyes, and make them come true.
D. H. Lawrence
PREFACE