Confessions of a Frigid Man: A Philosopher's Journey into the Hidden Layers of Men's Sexuality

206 Pages·2017·1.45 MB·English

by  Masahiro Morioka

Confessions of a Frigid Man
A Philosopher’s Journey into the Hidden Layers of
Men’s Sexuality

Masahiro Morioka

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Confessions of a Frigid Man
A Philosopher’s Journey into the Hidden
Layers of Men’s Sexuality

Masahiro Morioka

Tokyo Philosophy Project
Tokyo
Originally published in Japanese by Chikuma Shobō Ltd., Tokyo, in
2005 and 2013 (ISBN:4-480-06221-1, ISBN:4-480-43057-1)
Copyright: © 2005, 2013 by Masahiro Morioka

English translation: CC BY-ND 4.0, 2017 by Robert Chapeskie and
Masahiro Morioka
Translated by Robert Chapeskie (Preface, Chapters 1 through 5,
Afterword–2004) and Masahiro Morioka (Foreword, Epilogue,
Afterword–2017)
Published in Japan by Tokyo Philosophy Project, Waseda
University, 2-579-15 Mikajima, Tokorozawa, Saitama 3591192,
Japan
www.philosophyoflife.org/tpp/
First edition: January 20, 2017
Contents

Foreword to English Readers 1
Preface 7
Chapter 1
As Long as There’s a Miniskirt I Don’t Need a 11
Flesh and Blood Woman!?
Chapter 2
Men Who Avert Their Eyes from “Male 23
Frigidity”
Chapter 3
Why am I Attracted to School Uniforms? 57
Chapter 4
Delving into the Psychology of Men with 85
“Lolita Complexes”
Chapter 5
Moving Beyond Being a “Frigid Man” 133
Afterword – 2004 165

Epilogue

Further Thoughts on a Frigid Man – 2013 167
Afterword – 2017 193

Foreword to English Readers

This book was published under the title A Frigid
Man (Kanjinai Otoko) in Japanese in 2005. It soon
stirred controversy over the nature of male sexuality,
male “frigidity,” and its connection to the “Lolita
complex,” an adult male sexual obsession with young
teenage girls. Today, this work is considered a classic in
Japanese men’s studies.
The most striking feature of this book is that it was
written from the author’s first-person perspective. I am
a professor who teaches philosophy and ethics at a
university in Japan, and in this book I talk about my
own sexual fetishism, my feeling of emptiness after
ejaculation, and my huge obsession with young girls
and their developing female bodies. I undertake a
philosophical investigation of how and why sexuality
took such a form within a person who had grown up as
a “normal,” heterosexual man.
This may be the first case in which a philosopher
delves deep into his own sexuality and poses an
ambitious hypothesis about the formation of male
“frigid” sexuality, which might actually be shared by
many “normal” men in our society in a hidden way.
Reading this book, female readers will come to know,
for the first time, some hidden aspects of male sexuality
which men have skillfully submerged in a deep layer of
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their psyches.
In Chapter One, my fetish for women’s miniskirts is
discussed. I argue that the reason why men are
attracted to miniskirts is not because they wish to see
under the miniskirt, but because they wish to see the
dynamic tension between concealment and revelation
which is automatically created by the lively movement
of the hemline of a skirt. The development of this fetish
is driven by a desperate, craving search for something
that is supposed to provide men with intense pleasure
but can never actually be found anywhere in this world.
This is one of the most basic psychological/mental
grounds of frigidity in men.
In Chapter Two, I discuss ejaculation on the basis of
my own experience. I can feel a momentary pleasure
during ejaculation, but almost immediately afterward I
am engulfed by an overwhelming feeling of collapse
and emptiness. I call this “male frigidity” and argue
that many men, like myself, actually suffer from this
kind of symptom. While many men tacitly know this
fact, they usually look away from it and try to believe
the false statement that ejaculation is nothing but
heavenly pleasure. Psychiatric medicine has recognized
the concept of “male orgasmic disorder;” however,
“male frigidity” does not fall under this category. I also
emphasize that frigid men’s way of consuming
pornography is fundamentally twisted and obsessed;
hence, it should be considered a kind of self-injury. In
this chapter, readers gradually come to understand the
basic concept of “male frigidity” and an outline of frigid
men’s way of thinking.
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Chapter Three discusses the fetishization of junior
high and high school girls’ uniforms, which is said to be
prevalent among Japanese adult men. Since English-
speaking readers may not be as familiar with this
phenomenon, I would like to make a brief comment
here. In Japan, a majority of girls in junior high and
high school wear uniforms to school. If you are a fan of
Japanese manga or anime, you may immediately recall
a young heroine wearing a jacket and a miniskirt at
school. There are a number of adult men who are
sexually attracted to these school uniforms. This mind-
set seems to begin prevailing among people around the
world who love manga/anime. And I confess that I am
no exception. However, the reason why so many men
are attracted to school uniforms has not been made
clear in men’s studies. I analyze my inner sexuality and
conclude that my fetishism has a close connection with
my deep-rooted “male frigidity.” I argue that behind
school uniform fetishism there lurks a strong desire to
brainwash girls in uniforms, and closely examining this
desire reveals another desire—to virtually transport
myself into a girl’s body, which is possible only in the
world of my imagination.
Chapter Four is the most controversial part of this
book. I confess that I can understand erotic feelings
towards young girls around the age of twelve. It is very
unusual to read such words in a published book, but
this is the starting point where my journey of
exploration into the mystery of my strange and twisted
sexuality begins, and readers will be strongly perplexed
to read my analysis of why such sexuality has taken
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form inside me. I withhold writing its details here and
leave them to the readers’ future enjoyment, but again I
want to stress that my “male frigidity” plays an
important role in the formation of my Lolita complex. I
then discuss why some frigid men imagine having
intercourse with young girls around the age of puberty.
Although my hypothesis sounds very strange, it seems
to be possible that my discussion might valuably
contribute to the investigation of the pathology of adult
men desiring preteen girls.
In Chapter Five, I undertake an investigation into
my body image and discern that the idea that “my male
body is dirty” has been deeply inscribed in me. This
idea was formed when I first experienced wet dreams
and masturbation. I became a frigid man when I was a
junior high and high school student. And my
experiences in my college-student days eloquently
show what it is like to be a frigid man. I encourage men
like me to frankly acknowledge the “frigidity” of their
bodies and then try to find a way to dismantle their
body image so as to become liberated from their
obsessed sexuality.
The epilogue was written eight years after the book
was first published. Readers can see what has
happened in my actual life. I reply to some of the
representative comments and criticisms that have
appeared in the mass media, on the Internet, and in
personal communications. I explain the method of “life
studies” which was used in the book. This is a study
method that can only be accomplished by “never
detaching oneself from the subject being investigated.”
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