All About Love: Anatomy of an Unruly Emotion

390 Pages·2011·1.93 MB·English

by  Lisa Appignanesi

Lisa Appignanesi was born in Poland and grew up in France and Canada. She is
former Deputy Director of the Institute of Contemporary Arts in London, was
President of English PEN and is Chair of the Freud Museum. She is General
Editor of Profile Books’ Big Ideas series.

A prize-winning novelist and writer, she co-authored Freud’s Women and has
written many bestselling novels. Her family memoir, Losing the Dead received
critical acclaim and her book on the history of the Mind Doctors from 1800 to
the present day, Mad, Bad and Sad, was shortlisted for four prizes, won the
Medical Journalists’ Association Open Medical Book Award and the 2009
British Medical Association Award for the Public Understanding of Science.

She has been made a Chevalier de l’Ordre des Arts et des Lettres in recognition
of her contribution to literature. Lisa Appignanesi lives in London.
Also by Lisa Appignanesi

Mad, Bad and Sad: A History of Women and the Mind Doctors from 1800 to the
Present

Free Expression is No Offence (ed)

Freud’s Women (with John Forrester)

Losing the Dead

Simone de Beauvoir

The Cabaret

Femininity and the Creative Imagination: Proust, James and Musil

FICTION

The Memory Man

Kicking Fifty

Unholy Loves

Paris Requiem

Sanctuary

The Dead of Winter

The Things We Do for Love

A Good Woman

Dreams of Innocence

Memory and Desire

EDITED VOLUMES

The Rushdie File (with Sarah Maitland)
The Rushdie File (with Sarah Maitland)

Dismantling Truth (with Hilary Lawson)

Science and Beyond (with Stephen Rose)

Ideas from France: The Legacy of French Theory

Postmodernism
All About Love

Anatomy of an Unruly Emotion
Lisa Appignanesi

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Appignanesi, Lisa.
All about love: anatomy of an unruly emotion /
Lisa Appignanesi. — 1st American ed.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN: 978-0-393-06945-7
1. Love. 2. Marriage. I. Title.
BF575.L8A67 2011
152.'41—dc22

2011006756

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To my loved ones and those they love
Contents

Acknowledgements

PART ONE: OVERTURE THE RIDDLE OF LOVE

PART TWO: CONFIGURATIONS OF PASSION FIRST LOVE,
YOUNG LOVE

Falling…

Coup de Foudre

In Love Again…

Twin Souls

That Romantic Feeling

Crazy about You

The Lure of the Forbidden

The New Religion
The Question of Sex

Excess and Its Discontents

Finding Mr Right

Inventing Love

PART THREE: LOVE AND MARRIAGE

From Antiquity to the Reformation

The Companionate Marriage

France: From Old Regimes to New

Victorian Marriage

Republican Marriage

Decline of an Institution

Unconventional Arrangements

Post-War

The Mid-twentieth-century Marriage

Unmaking Marriage

Today’s Unsettled Unions

Happily Ever After

Trouble in Paradise