365 Manners Kids Should Know: Games, Activities, and Other Fun Ways to Help Children and Teens Learn Etiquette

550 Pages·2011·1.56 MB·English

by  Eberly

Copyright © 2001, 2011 by Sheryl Eberly All rights reserved.
Published in the United States by Three Rivers Press, an imprint of the Crown
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Originally published in paperback in slightly different form in the United States by
Three Rivers Press, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of
Random House, Inc., New York, in 2001.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Eberly, Sheryl.

365 manners kids should know : games, activities, and other fun ways to help children and teens learn etiquette / Sheryl Eberly with Caroline Eberly.—1st ed., [2nd ed.]. p. cm.
1. Etiquette for children and teenagers. I. Eberly, Caroline. II. Title.
BJ1857.C5E24 2011
395.1′22—dc22
2011007285
eISBN: 978-0-307-95246-2
Cover design by Maria Elias
v3.1
T
his book is dedicated to my husband,
Don, with whom I was privileged to raise
PRESTON, CAROLINE, AND MARGARET,
our
three generally well-mannered kids.
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Preface
Introduction
A Great Beginning
January 1: How early should you start teaching manners?
January 2: There’s no place like home
January 3: “Please” and “thank you”
January 4: Apologizing
January 5: Addressing others properly
January 6: Bow, kiss, or shake hands?
January 7: Accept compliments
January 8: Give sincere compliments
January 9: Be on time
January 10: Opening doors
January 11: Anticipating the needs of others
January 12: Borrowing
January 13: Breaking items
January 14: When you don’t know what to do
Body Basics
January 15: Dress appropriately for the occasion
January 16: Jewelry
January 17: It’s easy being clean
January 18: Perfumes
January 19: Grooming in public
January 20: Fresh breath
January 21: Sneezing
January 22: Oh, no, I’ve gotta go!
January 23: Posture communicates
January 24: Chewing gum
January 25: Coughing or sneezing at the table
January 26: If your child’s nose is running at the table
January 27: What to do with a belch
January 28: Wearing a name tag
January 29: Hands
January 30: Choking
January 31: Visiting the doctor
February 1: In the hospital
February 2: Braces
February 3: Inappropriate touch
Just for Boys
February 4: Awareness of others
February 5: Protecting others
February 6: Young men: marks of distinction
February 7: Sitting and standing tall
February 8: Asking for a date
February 9: When to wear a hat
Just for Girls
February 10: Sitting gracefully
February 11: Accepting a date
February 12: Declining a date
February 13: Young women: marks of distinction
Family Time
February 14: When Mom and Dad come home
February 15: How are we related?
February 16: Stepparent and Stepsibling dos and don’ts
February 17: When your child has a babysitter
February 18: When friends are more interested in siblings
February 19: When friends don’t want to be with siblings
February 20: Frightening others
February 21: Slamming doors
February 22: Television
February 23: The family computer
February 24: Cards and board games
February 25: Books
February 26: Allowance
February 27: When your child is home alone
February 28: Little things around the house
March 1: May I have your attention, please?
March 2: Your child’s bedroom
Getting Along with Other Kids
March 3: Friendship
March 4: Best friends
March 5: Is your child a good friend?
March 6: Bullies
March 7: When your child wants a new friend
March 8: New kid on the block
March 9: When your family moves
March 10: When a friend moves
March 11: Public playgrounds
March 12: A good neighbor
March 13: Neighborly manners
March 14: Swimming pools
March 15: Your pets
March 16: The pets of others
March 17: On the school bus
March 18: Interrupting
March 19: Changing the subject politely
March 20: Dating turnoffs
March 21: When a friend loses a loved one
March 22: When a friend has bad news
March 23: When a friend’s parents are getting a divorce
Introductions
March 24: Introduce the more important person first
March 25: Remembering names
March 26: Include names in introductions
March 27: Introducing parents with a different last name
March 28: If you forget someone’s name
March 29: Meeting a group
March 30: Stand to show respect
Telephone Talk
March 31: Placing a telephone call
April 1: Receiving a call
April 2: Taking a message
April 3: Handling call waiting (yours)
April 4: Handling call waiting (theirs)
April 5: Home alone: answering the phone
April 6: When your child doesn’t want to talk on the phone
April 7: Answering machines: your recorded message
April 8: Answering machines: leaving a message
April 9: When to call
April 10: Ending a call
April 11: Getting a wrong number
April 12: Phone tricks and pranks
Cell Phones
April 13: How cell phones are different
April 14: Message checking
April 15: Taking calls in public
April 16: Your ringtone
April 17: Playing phone tag
April 18: Avoid chewing while talking
April 19: No cell phone calls in the bathroom
April 20: Dropped calls
April 21: Cell phones at the table
April 22: When your child should call you
April 23: Your voice volume
April 24: Your voice-mail greeting
April 25: Taking pictures with a cell phone
April 26: Texting
April 27: Ask for permission first
April 28: How to avoid texting the wrong person
April 29: When a text goes to the wrong person
April 30: When not to text
May 1: Watch your tone
More on Digital Technology
May 2: The same rules apply
May 3: Don’t barrage others with messages
May 4: Language and grammar
May 5: Instant messaging
May 6: When there’s a generation gap
May 7: Know your gadget before you use it
May 8: Ask how you should contact someone
May 9: Choosing the best medium for the message
May 10: When to use a personal music-playing device
May 11: Volume of a personal music-playing device
May 12: When you run into someone
Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Oh My
May 13: Social-media mania
May 14: Staying social-media safe
May 15: Don’t go too personal
May 16: What not to post
May 17: Twitter
May 18: Setting up a profile on Facebook
May 19: Making friends on Facebook
May 20: Kids are friends with kids
May 21: De-friending
May 22: Posting and tagging photos
May 23: Seeing the real picture
May 24: Which way to communicate
May 25: Status updates
Internet Safety
May 26: Netiquette: rules for your child
May 27: More netiquette: keeping kids safe
May 28: Nine nevers for Internet safety
May 29: What is cyberbullying?
May 30: How to prevent cyberbullying
May 31: If your child is cyberbullied
June 1: If your child takes part in cyberbullying
You Are What You Say
June 2: Positive use of humor
June 3: When your child is funny
June 4: Swearing
June 5: Discussing money
June 6: Accents
June 7: How to just say no to drugs and alcohol
June 8: Whispering
June 9: Correcting a friend
June 10: Pointing
June 11: When your child doesn’t want to play
June 12: When someone speaks to your child
June 13: Unfriendly words
June 14: Making light of serious subjects
June 15: Distinctive speech
June 16: Body language
June 17: Eye contact
June 18: Asking leading questions
June 19: Using positive words
June 20: Sloppy language
June 21: Tone of voice
June 22: Asking none-of-your-business questions
June 23: Answering none-of-your-business questions
June 24: When adults do annoying things
June 25: Show deference to older people
June 26: Correcting adults
June 27: Ten TNT Discussion Topics
June 28: Practice conversation starters
The Written Word: Letters, Thank-you Notes, and E-mail
June 29: Signing a yearbook
June 30: Stationery
July 1: When to write a thank-you note
July 2: What’s in a thank-you note?
July 3: Writing letters with care
July 4: Writing a letter to a famous person
July 5: A condolence letter
July 6: E-mail
July 7: Framing an e-mail’s subject line
July 8: Greeting
July 9: The main message
July 10: Signing off
July 11: Attachments
July 12: Ask before forwarding
July 13: Limit the number of messages
July 14: Be responsive
July 15: Good grammar always works
July 16: Manage your emotions
July 17: Using “cc”
July 18: Using “bcc”
July 19: Using “reply all”
July 20: If you change your e-mail address
July 21: E-mail or snail mail for a thank-you?
Vacation Time
July 22: Traveling on an airplane
July 23: Traveling by train
July 24: How to tip on a trip
July 25: Consideration of others in a hotel
July 26: In the family car
July 27: When your child is a guest in a car
July 28: At the beach
July 29: Boating
July 30: Camping: thinking about others
July 31: Camping: courtesy toward your family
Outdoor Etiquette
August 1: Stick to the trail
August 2: Stick to a campsite
August 3: Sharing the trail
August 4: Leave nothing
August 5: Take nothing
August 6: Outdoors with your pet
August 7: Your noise level outdoors
August 8: Graffiti
Out on the Town
August 9: Movie manners
August 10: Seeing a movie with a friend
August 11: Take a seat
August 12: How and when to applaud
August 13: Intermission
August 14: Audience pests
August 15: At a museum
August 16: Museum tips
August 17: Reading a restaurant menu
August 18: Ordering from a menu
August 19: Confusing menu terms
August 20: Restaurant protocol
August 21: Handling problems in restaurants
August 22: Keeping your area neat at a restaurant
August 23: The people who work in a restaurant
August 24: What about tipping?
August 25: Things not to do in a restaurant
August 26: Salespeople
August 27: In a store
August 28: Saving a place in line
August 29: Butting into a line
August 30: When you bump into someone
August 31: On an escalator
September 1: On an elevator
September 2: Giving up your seat
September 3: Stay to the right, please
September 4: Appointments
September 5: Forgetting an appointment
Table Manners Made Easy
September 6: Start the meal off right with proper posture
September 7: Everyday table manners
September 8: Don’t bring these things to the table
September 9: Set the table properly
September 10: Formal table settings
September 11: Take formal table manners to dinner
September 12: Blowing on food
September 13: Paper trash at the table
September 14: Grace: the art of giving thanks
September 15: Grace: when you’re visiting someone else
September 16: Who gets served first?
September 17: Passing food
September 18: Asking for a drink
September 19: Removing plates during the meal
September 20: Cutting meat
September 21: If a guest is a vegetarian
September 22: If your child is a vegetarian
September 23: If food is spoiled
September 24: Using utensils correctly
September 25: Napkin etiquette
September 26: Ten things your child should never do at the table
September 27: Second helpings
September 28: When to begin eating
September 29: Leaving the table early
September 30: Serving a meal
October 1: Cleansing the palate
October 2: At the end of a formal meal
October 3: Food your child hates
October 4: When your child is allergic to certain foods
October 5: Afternoon tea
October 6: The protocol of afternoon tea
October 7: Serving tea
Stay Out of Sticky Situations with Food!
October 8: Removing items from your mouth
October 9: How to handle special diets
October 10: How to eat difficult foods
October 11: Eating bread
October 12: Eating a salad
October 13: Eating soup
October 14: How to eat pasta
October 15: How to eat shish kabob
October 16: Corn on the cob
October 17: Eating lobster
October 18: Eating fried chicken
October 19: Pizza
October 20: Crunching ice
October 21: Eating fresh fruit
October 22: Gravies, condiments, and relishes
October 23: Foreign matter in food
October 24: How to hold a glass
October 25: Eating in front of others
Invitations: Giving and Receiving
October 26: The nicest way to issue a verbal invitation
October 27: How to issue a written invitation
October 28: Responding to invitations
October 29: When it’s okay to decline
October 30: When your child isn’t invited
October 31: Two invitations for the same day
Birthdays, Weddings, Receptions, and Other Special Occasions
November 1: At your child’s own birthday party
November 2: Attending a birthday party
November 3: Receiving lines
November 4: Taking a child to a wedding
November 5: What to do at a wedding
November 6: Self-control at a reception
November 7: Serving yourself from a buffet table
November 8: Hang on to your plate at a reception
November 9: Wearing flowers
November 10: Getting an autograph
November 11: Receiving an award
November 12: At a school dance
November 13: When your child is behind the camera
November 14: When your child is in front of the camera
Be a Great Guest (and Host)
November 15: A good attitude for a good guest
November 16: What a guest should pack
November 17: Nice things for a guest to say
November 18: How to become a guest who is invited again
November 19: Say goodbye and leave promptly
November 20: Being a good host
November 21: For first-time guests
November 22: Serving food to your friends
November 23: The right guest list
November 24: Inviting friends over again
November 25: Sleepovers: bathroom etiquette
November 26: Sleepovers: bedtime etiquette
November 27: Sleepovers: mealtime etiquette
November 28: Guests go first
Be a Model American
November 29: The national anthem
November 30: Pledge of Allegiance
December 1: Care of the U.S. flag
December 2: Appreciating ideals and learning patriotism
December 3: When in another country
December 4: Being part of a community
Being Green
December 5: Environmental manners
December 6: At home
December 7: At a friend’s house
December 8: At school
December 9: At the grocery store
December 10: Birthday party
December 11: Out on the town
December 12: When you travel
Be a Good Sport
December 13: Enjoy the game
Decemeber 14: Rituals at athletic events
December 15: Good sportsmanship
December 16: The valued teammate
Being Considerate to People with Special Needs
December 17: Visiting someone who is sick
December 18: Relating to people with disabilities
December 19: People with visual problems
December 20: People with hearing loss
December 21: People in wheelchairs
Gifts—Giving and Getting
December 22: Birthstones
December 23: Gifts
December 24: Choosing a gift
December 25: Giving gifts at home
December 26: Gifts for the host
December 27: “No gifts”
December 28: Occasions to give a gift
December 29: Opening gifts at a party
December 30: When your child doesn’t like the gift
December 31: When your child receives duplicate gifts
In Conclusion
Acknowledgments
About the Authors