Table Of ContentPraise for Lou Paget’s
Exquisitely Pleasurable
Techniques
THE MEN SAY …
“I already knew five languages, but tonight after your seminar I now
consider myself a cunnilinguist.”
Executive, 54, Pasadena
“I had no idea this subject area could be treated with such grace and
elegance while still delivering an informed and powerful message. You
have a most unique seminar.”
German documentary director, 58, Paris
“I saw the results of your presentation at my bachelor dinner. The next
night, on the dance floor after our wedding, my friends and their wives
were dancing closer, kissing and hugging more and the wives couldn’t
stop thanking me. Thank you!”
Publisher, 42, Indianapolis
“Finally! The information we guys have always wanted and women
haven’t told us. Anytime I can learn more about my woman and how to
please her, sign me up, and it just hasn’t been available like this before
and it’s good to get it from their gender perspective.”
Radio talk show host, 44, New Jersey
“I learned more in three hours at your seminar than I did in my two
previous marriages.”
Systems engineer, 47, Chicago
“It is surprising to me that men do not have as much arrogance about
learning about money as they do about learning about sex. A man can
always talk about ways to make more $ yet underneath the one thing he
really wants to know how to do best is ‘make it’ with his partner.”
Accountant, 51, Denver
“I had no idea how little idea I had—I thank you and my fiancée thanks
you.”
Novelist, 42, Santa Monica
“Thank you, thank you, thank you! Do you know what a gold mine you
are? Every man, teenager, college student, whatever, should have access
to your course.”
Attorney, 32, New York
“After my brother and I had attended your class we could talk more
freely and not just in the way guys usually do. I think your message
about respecting our sexuality was the biggest one for me.”
College student, 25, St. Louis
“It was the simplest of things, it was the ways you showed me how to
stroke and touch my wife. I only wish I had known this forty years ago.”
Recently married executive, 64, Beverly Hills
“I read the Kama Sutra when I was fourteen or fifteen and it made about
as much sense as Bobby Fischer’s book on chess moves—and I could just
see an old guy with a heart condition trying this stuff having a heart
attack in the garage on the third day. Thank God we finally have you as
a source of information.”
Photographer, 47, Oakland
THEIR PARTNERS SAY
“Lou, this is G’s wife, he did your seminar last week. And what can I say,
I am yet another satisfied customer.”
Author, 47, Manhattan
“We had adopted our first child and then we each did your seminar.
Three months later I got pregnant and I want you to know my husband
and I hold you completely responsible for our beautiful baby girl.”
Singer/actress, 36, Encino
“You put the spark back into a forty-year marriage—something we had
hoped for and can’t believe has actually happened.”
Retail executive, 63, Las Vegas
“I am amazed at how comfortable we are about talking about sexual
things now. After the class my husband of fifteen years said, ‘You know
what, I really want to talk and we did!’ We found out things we both
wanted to do and try and had never had the courage to ask—are we
having fun.”
Producer, 41, Phoenix
“At first I thought he can’t get better or know more; he was already a
fabulous lover. But there was something about what he heard from you
that gave him the permission or I don’t know what that moved our sex
life from good to great to amazing. We now connect sexually even better
in our bodies and at a much deeper level in our hearts.”
Full-time housewife, 52, Minneapolis
“It is almost embarrassing how obvious the results of my husband’s
seminar are on me. If one more friend asks me why I look so good—I’ll
just laugh and say my husband took a class.”
Marketing executive, 28, San Francisco
Also by Lou Paget
HOW TO BE A GREAT LOVER
HOW TO GIVE HER ABSOLUTE PLEASURE. Copyright © 2000 by Lou Paget.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Paget, Lou.
How to give her absolute pleasure: totally explicit techniques every woman wants her man to
know / Lou Paget—1st. ed.
p. cm.
1. Sex instruction for men. 2. Women—Sexual behavior.
3. Men—Sexual behavior. 4. Sexual excitement. I. Title.
HQ36.P34 2000
613.9’6—dc21 99-047769
DESIGNED BY JENNIFER ANN DADDIO
eISBN: 978-0-30741903-3
v3.1_r1
This book was written to inform, educate, and expand the awareness of
its readers. While the techniques mentioned in this book work well for
some people, they may not be appropriate for you. Be aware that it is
your responsibility to know your body and that of your partner. This
book talks about sex acts that are illegal in some states. Know your
state’s laws about sex, and if you choose to break them you do so at your
own risk. This book makes no representation as, or as a substitute for,
relationship counseling.
No one involved in the writing or publishing of this book is a
physician, mental health professional, or licensed sex therapist, although
members of those professions have been consulted on certain issues.
Consult with a physician if you have any condition that precludes
strenuous or sexually exciting activity. Further consult a physician or
AASECT certified sex therapist before attempting any sexual act that you
are unfamiliar with, or do so at your own risk.
Neither Lou Paget nor Broadway Books nor any of their associates
shall be liable or responsible to any person or entity for any loss,
damage, injury, or ailment caused, or alleged to be caused, directly or
indirectly, by the information or lack of information contained in this
book.
To my father, Kenneth Kane Paget, the first man I ever loved with all my heart.
&
To all of the gentlemen in the seminars, who had the courage to say what you wanted. You planted the
seed. To all of the gentlemen and ladies who shared their ideas. You gave the book its soul and
direction. To all of the gentlemen who asked for this book. You are the reason it came into being.
Acknowledgments
One of the things you learn when you are involved in any project is that
no one does it alone, and one of the sweeter things is to let those who
have been there for you know how much you appreciate them.
THE SUPPORT TEAM
The ladies in my family who once again were always there: Dede,
Katerena, Sherry, Lisa, Michelle, and Carolynn.
Tara Raucci, my ever-capable assistant, who hit the ground running.
Jessica Kalkin, Bernard Spigner (my “NP”), Matthew Davidge, Maura
McAniff, Kendra King, Raymond Davi, T. J. Rozsa, Priscilla Wallace,
Sandra Beck, Jay Rosen, Alan Cochran, Michael Levin, Nance Mitchell,
Peter Redgrove, Morley Winnick, Gail Harrington, Elizabeth Hall, Eileen
Michaels, Robert McGarvey, Mark Helm, Lilianna and Ali Moradi.
THE REVIEW TEAM
Bernard Spigner, Matthew Davidge, Michael Levin, Marty Waldman, Rafi
Tahmazian, Ron Ireland, Wayne Williams, David James, T. J. Rozsa, Jay
Rosen, Craig Dellio.
THE CREATIVE TEAM
Billie Fitzpatrick, who again took my voice and masterfully turned it into
words. A West Coast to East Coast production, you can only imagine our
e-mails.
Debra Goldstein, the agent every author dreams of … pats to Bodhi.
Lauren Marino, an editor with the guts to truly edit, to do so stylishly,
and, into book two (with me and Billie), she still has one of the best
laughs.
Ann Campbell, associate editor; Cate Tynan, editorial assistant; Bill
