Table Of ContentPickup Question Guide
Questions to spice up your
conversations with women
Eddie Hitchens
Maciek Drahusz
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Intro
There is one question that we at Street Attraction get asked over and over again ''What do I talk about
with a girl?'' The average man usually doesn’t know how to engage a women on mutually interesting
topics of conversation. We've all been there, during a pickup or date the nerves kick in and we go into
a robotic mode of asking mundane questions.
This guide lists some of the more interesting questions to help you engage a woman in order to
develop the relationship further. Make intelligent use of the advice in this guide at the appropriate
time in the interaction and you will be light years ahead of most other men. Don't be afraid to
experiment and come up with your own material once you get the hang of the underlying principles
behind these questions, unlike many other dating companies we are not interested in turning you into
a pickup clone!
Don’t bombard a woman with one question after another; you’ll make her feel like she's in a job
interview. Ultimately the questions are just a means to spark an engaging conversation that is fun and
playful and later deep and seductive. Read these questions, keep a few in your mind or store them on
your mobile phone, and perhaps use this list when the conversation starts to run dry. Avoid asking her
too many questions, often just asking two or three good questions during the conversation will spice
things up and get her to open up. Be very careful not to ask more than two questions in a row without
making statements (especially early on in the pickup) as you risk the ‘interview mode’ mentioned
earlier which will end up killing the conversation and attraction.
Good conversation is not just about asking questions, no matter how good they might be. A charismatic
conversationalist and seducer blends questions and statements to create a compelling and balanced
conversational mix. A simple rule to follow is:
Make a statement then follow it up with an evoking question (usually related to her), for example;
Her: “I love cats”
You: “Cats are cool, I like how gracefully they move about and their 'I don't
give a fuck' independent spirit and attitude. Tell me, what is it about cats
that you love?”
Your statement and question should give her enough material to get her talking. There are few
important things that you should be mindful of when in conversation:
» Good body language: Sit up straight or stand tall, with your hands open and arms and
legs uncrossed. Open and expanded body language conveys confidence but also helps
her to feel more relaxed when talking with you.
» When listening, slowly nod from time to time and make the occasional encouraging
sound and gestures.
» Solid eye contact: Make sure to look her in the eyes when you're talking, it's okay to break
it occasionally. Break eye contact mostly when she's talking and you're listening. Never
break eye contact by looking down, it's a sign of submission, instead break eye contact
by looking to the side. Give her plenty of eye contact by be careful not to make her feel
uncomfortable.
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» Keep it light (most of the time). You can obviously talk about serious subjects now and
again, but focus on playful and light hearted topics of conversation to distinguish yourself
from boring serious office drones.
» Use humour: however don't feel the need to be funny all the time, you don't need to be
her clown.
» Lead the conversation: Don't monopolise it, but bring in new topics from time to time,
rather than letting her run the entire conversation. If your date isn't moving towards your
intended goal, consider changing the topic/s.
» Don’t seek her approval: Women love a guy who is prepared to challenge them, it
demonstrates high value and is a sign of masculine dominance. If you seem like you're
trying to please her all the time, she’ll quickly lose interest in you. If you have opinions
that are different, don't be afraid to voice them (but don't start an argument or a long
debate).
» Don't be afraid to talk about the things that you like or enjoy. If you love drag racing,
world war two documentaries or rare Ethiopian jazz vinyl records mention them in
the conversation. Let her know why you're passionate about it, they key is to talk with
enthusiasm. Enthusiasm and passion are qualities that women find attractive in a man.
The question game
The premise of the Questions Game is simple. If you're on a date or just hanging out with a girl and
the conversation runs dry or you're not really sure what else to say, you can suggest playing a game
called "10 Questions" where you take it in turns to ask each other a question at a time. You each have
to answer the question asked. It's a simple game, but usually very effective at sparking interesting
conversations.
You: "Okay we're going to play the 10 Questions Game.." (vary the number
of questions according to the time you have to fill)
This sentence will usually re-engage her. Explain the premise of the game to her and fire off your first
question, for example;
You; "Ok I'll start, what's your favourite album to listen to when you want to
get into a good mood?"
Make sure that the first few questions you ask her are non sexual. Spice it up and get more sexual by
the 4th or 5th question.
Playing this game will usually reignite the interaction and will often lead to very interesting and sexy
conversations. The beauty of this game is that it's so simple. When she gives you her answer, it gives
you an opportunity to take the conversation off on a tangent, then when it runs dry you can then go
straight back to the next question. If there's any chemistry between you and her the game will help
you fast track the sexual escalation, so you will rarely ever make it to question 10.
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Questions Not To Ask
Before reading what you can ask it's best firt in, things that can offend her badly or make you
to think what to avoid. We have listed some look bad. Some questions are just boring; others
common questions that guys often ask which will just make you look unattractive or even
should not be used. The general rule is not to ask scary. The following questions are conversation
her things that you are not genuinely interested killers and attraction destroyers;
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How much do you weigh?
There's no point asking her how much she weights, if you found her attractive
enough to approach, then her weight shouldn't matter. Asking such a question will
often make the woman feel self-conscious. Also most women will find it rude for
you asking.
When was the last time you were cheated on?
Don’t ask girls about negative stories from their previous relationships. Also don’t
talk about how your ex cheated on you or how you cheated on her. Even if you had
bad experiences, avoid moaning or bitching about your ex-girlfriends, it makes you
look weak and pathetic.
When was the last time you had drunken sex?
Drunken sex isn’t romantic and usually is seen as a mistake by women. This could
imply that you think the girl you are with is a slut who will fuck anyone who gets
her drunk. Avoid suggesting that she is slutty even if it’s apparent. When talking
about past sexual encounters, mention positive and adventurous experiences.
Who is your best friend?
It’s better to avoid talking about her friends too much. It’s an easy way to the
friend zone. You are not trying to become her friend but her lover, besides why do
you care who her best friend is.
Can I kiss you? Would you like to come to my place?
Asking girls if you can kiss them will almost certainly show that you have limited
experience (and infer low pre-selection by other females). When the interaction is
going well just assume that you can kiss her and you should go for it. Just try and
if she refuses, act like nothing happened and continue the conversation as normal.
Obviously never force yourself on her but sometimes you might need to try more
than once to get the kiss. Usually if she is attracted, you should get it. In general
you should always lead, whether it's going for the kiss, changing venue or taking
her home. Just take action and if she refuses just stay cool and calm like it's no big
deal, it shouldn't be.
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Do you have rape fantasies? What do you think about death?
Avoid mentioning rape, death, extreme violence, anything creepy or scary in any of
your conversations with women, it's a serious attraction and trust killer.
What is your favourite pet/colour/currency/etc?
These are just boring topics. You are most likely not even interested in knowing
the answer to any of these questions. You might think that you are building
rapport with her but most likely you are just boring her to tears.
If you really don’t know what to say or ask her just look into her eyes and smile,
silence is better than being a motor mouth who asks dull questions. Being
comfortable with some silence demonstrates confidence, and allows her to chip in
and re start the conversation. Introducing some silence in your conversation can
help you to gauge her interest/investment level.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
These cliche job interview questions are bad even during a job interview.
Where did you buy your mascara/dress/handbag/etc?
Are you really interested to know that? These are questions her female friends ask
her. Asking these questions signals to her that you're not a real masculine man or
worse an insecure man trying too hard to make her like you. Leave girly topics for
her girl and gay friends.
Do you like me? Would you like to see me again? Do you think I'm
good looking?
Asking these types of questions shows massive insecurity. Always assume the best,
assume she likes you and wants to see you again.
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Do you have a boyfriend? Do you miss your ex boyfriend? Who is the
lucky guy?
Attractive women will almost always have some sort of boyfriend as well as several
orbiters around. If she is talking to you it probably means that she is ready to
forget about other guys if you are good enough. If she still misses her ex then it’s
time she forget about him.
Which famous person do you think I resemble?
On one hand this question might look like a sign of cockiness but it just shows
insecurity. It telegraphs that you need her to confirm how cool or handsome you
are. Avoid such approval seeking questions.
Are all girls from your country/city so beautiful?
You are putting her on a massive pedestal. She'll probably start viewing you as a
low value man with low standards ready and desperate to go for any pretty girl
from the same region.
Are you religious? Have you heard of Joseph Smyth?
Religious discussions or debates are attraction destroyers, trying to convert
someone is never a good idea. If she asks you about your religious views, tell her
that you don't like to discuss religion. If you prefer to tell her, do so, but don’t get
deep into it. If she is religious show that it’s not a big problem for you and then
move to next topic quickly.
Who are you voting for in the next election? Do you believe in
global warming?
Even if you agree with her political views you are not going to create any
additional attraction, if you disagree with her views it might only lead to a
pointless discussion. Remind yourself of what your goal is; to sleep with her, not to
become her debate buddy.
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Pickup Questions
So you've approached the girl that caught your Note: We left some space for you under each
eye, you've spoken with her for a bit but now question to write down your answers. It's
the conversation is beginning to get dry. You can important to be able to reply to each question
revert to one of these questions which should yourself as women may ask for your answer. If
open more interesting conversational threads; she's asking you questions and showing interest
in you, this is usually a good sign that she is
attracted to you. So be prepared!
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What's one of your most expensive purchases?
Tell her what a brainwashed materialistic drone she is, then launch into a diatribe
about the rot in our system (just kidding).
What shop do you never feel guilty spending money in?
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A work of art that inspires you.
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What compliment do you get most often?
How do you usually entertain yourself on a day/night like this?
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What fantabulous plans have you got for the rest of the day?
What is your favorite spot around here?
What is the first thing you notice in a man?
Where are you from?... (her answer)
What do you miss most about that place?
What do you do?... (her answer)
What inspires you to do it?
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