Fev: In the Moment. by Brendan Fevola with Adam McNicol

201 Pages·2012·13.76 MB·English

by  Brendan Fevola

Published in 2012 by Hardie Grant Books
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Copyright © Brendan Fevola 2012
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eISBN: 9781742738475
Cover and text design by Peter Daniel
Cover image by James Braund
To my beautiful girls, Alex, Mia, Leni and Lulu;
you are my world and the reason that I live every day.
CONTENTS
Title Page
Copyright Page
1 The blue bus
2 Sandcastles in the dirt
3 King of the kids
4 Player 4144
5 The last kick of the millennium
6 Warming the pine
7 A bit of harmless fun
8 The role model
9 A fifty-fifty proposition
10 The girl with the curl
11 Rebuilding my reputation
12 Another false dawn
13 A bloody freak
14 Pressure point
15 On my own
16 It’s all over
17 Goodbye speech
Acknowledgements
1 THE BLUE BUS
Iwas on a blue bus crammed full of crazy people, going over the Story Bridge
in the middle of Brisbane, when the true extent of my fall from grace hit
home. It was 12 January 2011. A little over a week earlier, I had been
admitted to the New Farm Clinic, a hospital for people with mental
problems that I soon began referring to as The Nuthouse. I was to undergo
rehabilitation for a range of problems, including depression, alcohol abuse and a
gambling addiction. The other patients were mostly being treated for mental
conditions such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and post-traumatic stress
disorder. We were all on the blue bus because the clinic, and much of Brisbane
for that matter, had been inundated by the worst flooding to hit south-east
Queensland in three decades. As a result, we were being transferred to the
Greenslopes Private Hospital, located on higher ground on the northern side of
the swollen Brisbane River.
As we crossed the landmark bridge, the people sitting in the seats around me
kept up their gibberish. I felt like I was in a ridiculous dream or a scene in a
horror movie. I was one of the highest-paid stars of the most popular football
competition in Australia, but I was being driven through the streets of Brisbane
with a bunch of mentally ill people. Completely freaked out, I rang Dad. ‘What
am I doing on this fucking bus?’ I slurred to him. Dad tried to have a rational
conversation with me, but I was on such strong medication that nothing I said
made sense. When we arrived at Greenslopes, my mind was all over the place.
‘Where am I?’ I thought to myself. ‘Why am I not at footy training?’ Then,
when I remembered what had happened, I thought, ‘What’s Vossy going to think
about me being locked up in a nuthouse?’
Only nine months had passed since I had made a triumphant debut with my
new club, the Brisbane Lions. Their coach, Michael Voss, had copped plenty of
grief for recruiting me from Carlton and signing me to a multimillion-dollar
contract. Many people thought he was crazy because I had a history of off-field
problems, the most public of which—an embarrassing drunken performance on
Channel 9’s The Footy Show—had ended my eleven-year stint at the Blues. The
nay-sayers had quickly changed their tune after I helped the Lions open the 2010
AFL season with four straight wins, which propelled them to the top of the
ladder. Now, however, all that goodwill was gone. I had thrown it away by
making some terrible decisions, many of them while affected by alcohol. I was
knee-deep in gambling debt. I felt friendless.
*
The lead-up to being admitted to the New Farm Clinic had been a nightmarish
blur. My wife, Alex, and our three children, Mia, Leni and Lulu, had moved with
me to Brisbane when I was traded to the Lions in October 2009, but they
returned to Victoria the following April after my relationship with Alex broke
down. I really missed Alex and the kids while I was in Brisbane, and at the end
of 2010 I’d gone to Melbourne to celebrate Christmas with them. Given all we’d
been through, it was a miracle that Alex allowed me to see her and the kids at
all. But she felt that our children needed to have both of their parents playing an
active role in their lives.
I still considered Alex to be my best friend. She had been such a great
support through all the highs and lows of my footy career, and she was so wise
and level-headed when it came to things like sharing our time with the kids.
A few days after Christmas, I went to visit Alex and the kids down at
Blairgowrie on the Mornington Peninsula, where they were staying in a friend’s
holiday house. At some point, Alex asked me to mind Lulu for a couple of
minutes—our ten-month-old was sitting on a bed—and went off to heat up a
bottle of milk. I sat down and immediately started to feel woozy. I had made the
mistake of mixing alcohol with the powerful mixture of drugs that I was taking
to combat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, which I had been diagnosed
with earlier that year. Soon, I was asleep. By the time Alex came back, Lulu had
rolled off the bed and was on the floor, crying. Alex erupted, screaming at me
that I was a disgrace. It was no wonder. She couldn’t even trust me with the kids
anymore. Alex packed up the kids’ stuff and loaded them into the car. She
offered to drive me back to Melbourne, but I just grabbed my bag and caught a
bus to the nearest train station, and then took a train back to Alex’s house.
During the trip, people were looking at me, probably thinking, ‘What on earth is
Fev doing on public transport?’ I just stared at the floor.
I walked through the front door of Alex’s house to find that no-one was
home. I was feeling angry, embarrassed, ashamed and depressed. I felt like
giving up on life right there and then. I grabbed a bottle of wine from her fridge
and within fifteen minutes it was empty. I opened another bottle, drank it, then
went for another one. Alex eventually arrived, but she quickly realised what a
went for another one. Alex eventually arrived, but she quickly realised what a
bad state I was in and took the kids to her sister’s place.
The alcohol, my embarrassment and the drugs were a toxic mix. The more I
drank, the worse I felt, but I kept drinking anyway. I was falling off a cliff. How
was I ever going to pay off my debts? How was I ever going to reconcile with
my family? Killing myself seemed the only answer. I started crying.
Without really thinking, I rang the Brisbane Lions’ new football manager,
Dean Warren. I hardly knew the bloke, as he had only been at the Lions for a
couple of months, but I found myself pouring my heart out to him. ‘I’m in
trouble mate, and I need help,’ I told him. Dean tried his best to help me. He
promised he would ring me back the next morning and try to sort something out.
Meanwhile, Alex had let Mum know that I was in a bad way. She came over and
found me passed out on the floor, which was very traumatic for her. No mother
should ever have to find their child in that type of situation. It wasn’t fair on her;
I was being very stupid and immature.
When Dean rang me in the morning, I was in a terrible state. I had the worst
hangover in history, but it wasn’t just the alcohol that made me feel so bad. My
mind had melted down. Everything I thought about made me fearful. When was
I going to see my kids again? Was my marriage really over this time? Dean
handled the phone call with empathy and class. He and the rest of the Lions’
football department wanted me to go to a rehabilitation centre so I could resolve
my problems and get back to being a footy star. ‘Who’s going to pay?’ I asked
Dean. He told me not to worry and then explained that the AFL and the Players’
Association made money available to deal with such circumstances. After a
couple of calls back and forth, it was agreed that I would be admitted to the New
Farm Clinic on 3 January.
I flew back to Brisbane later that day. It was New Year’s Eve. I caught a cab
back to my place, dumped my stuff then called a few of my Lions teammates to
see what was going on. My head was still a mess, and the last thing I should’ve
been doing was going anywhere near alcohol, but I didn’t want to sit at home by
myself. It was New Year’s Eve, for God’s sake! ‘Sweet, I’ll come over,’ I said to
one of the boys, after he told me a heap of the blokes were round at his place
having a beer. I never really thought too much about what I was doing at the best
of times, and it was no different on that night. I have always been an impulsive
person, and I find it almost impossible to overcome my impulses. It never
crossed my mind that Dean Warren would be furious if he found out that I’d
been partying so soon after my desperate call to him. It never occurred to me that
going out and drinking that night might damage my million-bucks-per-year AFL
going out and drinking that night might damage my million-bucks-per-year AFL
career.
I had a few drinks at my teammate’s house and then we headed to a bar in
Fortitude Valley. The boys had a fair idea that I was in a bad state, they knew I
was struggling to cope with the disintegration of my marriage, but I think they
believed that taking me with them was a safer option than leaving me alone.
Anyway, midnight came and went, and I just kept drinking until I was rolling
drunk. By then, most of my teammates had gone home. A couple of them had
even seen me get into a cab at one stage, and they had assumed I’d gone home as
well. But as the clock ticked past 4 am, I was still out on the town, along with
some of the Lions boys. At 4.30 am, a group of us left a bar and wandered across
Brunswick Street. Out of nowhere, a couple of serious-looking policemen
appeared and asked me to move off the road. I’d been carrying on a bit, I’d had
too much to drink, but there were thousands of people on the streets of Brisbane
behaving in a similar, if not worse, way that night. So I gave the police a bit of a
verbal spray—‘Go and sort out the city’s real problems!’ was more or less what I
said. They tried to handcuff me, so I put my hands in my pockets, but the
coppers didn’t see the funny side of that. Although my teammates tried to help
me, there wasn’t much they could do. I think the police were after a big scalp
that night, and they got one. Soon I was bundled into a divvy van, along with a
few other pissed blokes, and carted off to the Brisbane watchhouse.
Around sixty people were locked up in the watchhouse that night, but
thankfully the police put me in a cell on my own. After staring at the cell wall
for half an hour, I began to sober up. A thumping headache set in, along with a
feeling of deep sadness. I put my head in my hands. I knew I had been stupid,
but I hadn’t meant to do anything crazy. Sure, I was addicted to being the centre
of attention, but I wasn’t consciously putting myself on a path to destruction.
Rather, I felt unable to make myself do the right things. My life had gone
completely off the rails, but I felt powerless to do anything about it.
The Lions soon learned what had happened thanks to news reports on the
radio. The morning of New Year’s Day, one of the coppers played a joke on me
by saying, ‘Hey Fev, your mates are here.’ I thought a couple of my teammates
had arrived to get me out. But when I took a peek at the sliding doors fronting
the watchhouse, I saw that a huge media pack was waiting for me. I swore, while
the copper just laughed. Not long after, one of the other blokes who’d been
arrested was released and got bombarded with questions about me. He told the
journos, ‘He was looking pretty miserable … He was feeling pretty sorry for
himself, mate.’ That was an understatement.
Eventually, my manager, three-time Brisbane Lions premiership forward