Asperger's Syndrome and Adults... Is Anyone Listening? Essays and Poems by Partners, Parents and Family Members...

188 Pages·2003·0.48 MB·English

by  Karen E. Rodman

Asperger’s Syndrome and Adults…
Is Anyone Listening?
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Asperger’s Syndrome and Adults…
Is Anyone Listening?
Essays and Poems by Partners, Parents and Family
Members of Adults with Asperger’s Syndrome
Collected by Karen E. Rodman
FamiliesofAdultsAfflictedwithAsperger’sSyndrome
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ForewordbyDrTonyAttwood
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Contents
Acknowledgements 10
Terminology 11
Foreword by Dr Tony Attwood 13
Preface 17
1 Asperger’s Syndrome and its Effect Upon
the Families 19
FAAAS Inc., USA, 2002
2 Cassandra Phenomenon 22
FAAAS Inc., USA, 2000
3 The Family Aspect of Asperger’s Syndrome 24
Linda Demer, UCLA, 2002
4 Things I Have Learnt About
Asperger’s Syndrome… 27
Brenda Wall, UK, 2002
5 Behind a Glass Wall 38
Marguerite Long, Australia, 1997
6 Is Anyone Listening? 42
Karen E. Rodman, USA, 1997
7 Be Careful What You Wish For 44
Anonymous, New Jersey, 2002
8 Asperger’s Dungeon 47
Dawn O’Neil, USA, 2002
9 Living With an AS Son 49
E.G., USA, 2002
10 A Commentary 56
Anonymous, USA, 2000
11 A Failed Marriage 60
Anonymous
12 Asperger’s Syndrome, Obsessions, etc. 64
Anonymous, USA, 2000
13 Naked Hands 74
Kathy Read, USA, 2002
14 Personal Reflections on a Relationship
with an Adult who has the Symptoms of
Asperger’s Syndrome 75
Anonymous, USA, 2000
15 When We Married 81
Anonymous, 2001
16 When Cassandra was Very, Very Young 84
Judy Singer, Australia, 2002
17 Roses and Cacti 91
Marguerite Long, Australia, 2000
18 Loneliness Is… 99
Karen E. Rodman, USA, 1995
19 Bobby… 100
Bobby’s mom, Vicki, USA, 2000
20 Life With My AS Mother 104
Paula, Canada, 2002
21 Disconnecting from the Treadmill 108
Regina, New York, 2001
22 When Love is Not Enough 113
Brenda Wall, UK, 1997
23 My Corner 123
Yvette Gerhardt, USA, 2003
24 My Older AS Son… 126
Anonymous, New Zealand, 2002
25 Tempest and Sunshine 130
Cynthia Marchant, USA, 1990
26 AS Awareness: A Path Out of the Darkness 131
Debbie, USA, 2000
27 Passive Aggression 144
Marguerite Long, Australia, 2002
28 Six Generations of AS 146
A seventy-plus-year-young anonymous male, USA
29 Trying to Describe Our Situation 149
“Sharon”, USA, 2000
30 O Negative 153
Anonymous, USA, 2002
31 Knowing is Understanding, Understanding is
Accepting: A Note of Encouragement 156
Annemarieke, USA, 2002
32 The End into a Beginning 160
Anonymous, USA, 2002
33 Untitled 168
Maxine Aston, UK, 2002
34 Come With Me 170
Dawn O’Neil, USA, 2002
Afterword by Dr Tony Attwood 173