Vagina: A Re-education

185 Pages·2019·1.04 MB·English

by  Lynn Enright

VAGINA
Vagina
A RE-EDUCATION
Lynn Enright
First published in Great Britain in 2019 by Allen & Unwin
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CONTENTS
Introduction
1 A Sex Re-education
2 The Facts (If We Can Call Them That)
3 The Hymen, a Useless Symbol
4 The Clitoris, and How It’s Ignored
5 The Orgasm, and Why Everything’s Normal
6 Appearances, and Looking in the Mirror
7 Periods, and What Makes Them So Awful
8 Pain, As It Applies to Women
9 Fertility, Teaching It and Talking About It
10 Getting Pregnant, and What Comes Next
11 The Vagina and Menopause
12 Does My Vagina Define Me?
Acknowledgements
Resources
References
Introduction
I think it’s the worst thing we do to each other as women, not share the
truth about our bodies and how they work.
Michelle Obama, Good Morning America,
ABC News, 2018
Its very underneathness means the vagina can be overlooked. Not by the
individual, of course: the pulsing of arousal, the monthly arrival of blood, the
sticky discharge, the changing smells, the unarguable fact that it is the site of
new life – all that means that a woman is never unaware of her vagina. But –
perhaps due to its position, discreetly tucked away; or perhaps due to hundreds
of years of society controlling women’s bodies; or, most likely, due to a
combination of factors – there is a secrecy surrounding the vagina that afflicts
women generally.
As girls we are told, sensibly of course, that it is a private place; we are
urged, really, to ignore it. We call it a ‘front bottom’, a chirpy if deceitfully
vague moniker, and we talk no more of it until it’s time for periods and
pregnancy prevention.
There is a fear, it seems, that by presenting a girl with the facts, she will be
empowered. And there is sometimes a sense, felt by girls or young women, that
they should not be allowed access to that power. I remember as a twelve-year-
old hearing that it would be useful to look at my own vagina with a hand mirror.
The suggestion came from a representative of Tampax who had come to give a
talk at school, and all through the assembly hall echoed murmurs of disgust and
ridicule, girls displaying an aversion to the suggestion, signalling to each other
that they were horrified at the thought of being so intimate with their own
bodies. That night, though, initially compelled because I was the type of studious
child who always did her homework, I took a hand mirror – the one that usually
sat on the windowsill of my parents’ en suite bathroom – and I looked ‘down
there’. The jolt of arousal was too much; I retreated almost immediately,
throwing the mirror aside and pulling up my knickers, depriving myself.
I had been seeking out a biological understanding and, instead of that, or
certainly alongside that, I had happened upon a deeply erotic experience. Rather
than enjoying that undeniable and pleasurable arousal, I was scared: scared of
the end of childhood; scared of the new sensation; scared of the possibility of
enjoying my sexuality. To masturbate was shameful, something that boys did,
not girls, and so I didn’t. Not that evening.
Of course, this is just my experience; other girls probably have different
memories of the day that they were urged to look at themselves with a hand
mirror. Maybe some were able to appraise their vaginas with a dispassionate and
scientific eye; maybe others were able to just get on with masturbating,
unperturbed by squeamishness, ignorance and the echoing murmurs of disgust.
Each girl and woman has a personal and subjective relationship with her vagina
– and her sexuality. However, what I think is common is that she exists in a
society that discourages her from looking underneath too often; she exists in a
society where misinformation about the vagina is rife, where women’s sexuality
is discouraged and shamed.
It starts early, with the sex education that most of us receive, where there is
an emphasis on men’s orgasms and male ejaculation. Obviously, when educating
teenagers, preventing pregnancy is key, but I remember learning a lot about wet
dreams – and wet dreams are about as useless as it gets in terms of procreation.
As a young teenager, I was under the impression that boys woke up in sodden
sheets each and every morning with dream bubbles featuring topless women
floating above their heads. Meanwhile, girls’ orgasms or pleasure were never
discussed. Basically, in a lot of sex education, the male orgasm is pretty much
framed as the point of sex and vaginas are there as a sort of receptacle. And that
focus on the male orgasm leads to a situation where girls – and boys – see male
sexuality as more important, more dominant than female sexuality.
This misinformation isn’t just about attitudes or the way we talk to young
people about sex, it’s actually right there in the biology too; it’s present in the